So a few months back, I joined a DnD group that I found on Facebook. We’re playing Drakkenheim and all started from lvl 1. It’s been great for the most part but I wouldn’t be here if there wasn’t an issue.

Just to set it up, there is me, an oathbreaker paladin, a ranger, a monk, a wizard, and the Druid. For the most part, most of us pull together and approach it like a team which I personally believe is a huge part of playing trrpgs.

Except the Druid.

At the very first encounter, he started combat before anyone had the chance to rp or anything so I was worried we had a murder hobo on our hands. Turns out, he’s just a “shoot first, ask questions later” kind of person. Fair enough. But as time went on, things got a bit…frustrating.

Now to be clear, I have nothing against the guy personally. He’s actually pretty nice and I also have played in a couple one shots he ran. Out of game, I really enjoy him.

Anyway, almost every week we have some kind of major encounter which is great. I love the balance of RP and combat. Early on, Druid was definitely playing like he was a team all on his own and that irked me because I personally believe that dnd should be about team work. But I was fine to keep that to myself as everyone plays dnd differently.

Now, before I go on, I think it’s only fair to mention that he and I are the only two with healing powers as we are both Aasimar. I don’t mind being a healer but I don’t want to be the only one healing either.

A week or so back is when things really started to reach a boiling point. We had to get into a cave to collect some flowers for a mission. We got into the city via the sewers and found several zombies, some kind of lizard thing, and the dreaded gelatinous cube. I got stuck in the cube so I lost a chunk of HP. No problem, I can heal myself. I also healed another PC who had gotten consumed by the cube. So my healing pool was down to 5 by the time we exited the sewers. It’s worth mentioning that we were level 4 so spell slots were limited for me.

We have to go through an empty garden and come across some baddies guarding the entrance to the cave where the flowers were. Druid takes one of his invisibility potions and then proceeds to RP going around the garden to collect the delirium (worth money) in the garden. This took a good 20 minutes of game time which irked me but again, to each their own. Finally we were moving again and he cast pass without a trace on the party to sneak past the guards. We descend into the cave and for the most part, everything is going smoothly.

We come across the former queen who was imprisoned and out of her mind. When she heard us, we kind of froze. Druid then says to me, “what do you say we put her out of her misery”. Really bro? As someone with mental illness, that hit wrong but that’s my issue. I was able to convince him to let me try a more….diplomatic approach. It ended up in combat in the end but it was worth a try.

The queen was some kind of Medusa creature and if you looked at her when she looked at you, it is an immediate 22 points of radiant damage. So I got the brunt of it. Thankfully I am resistant to radiant damage so it was only 11 but I had 32 hp so it was still pretty bad.

Now, Druid had taken another invisibility potion and snuck behind her at a distance. We went a couple rounds and he mainly prepared a big attack. A few rounds in, I was still in melee with her and took two massive hits that put me on 5 hp. I was also out of spell slots. So when the round started, I was in desperate need of healing. Yes I did have a healing potion, but I kept forgetting to use it. No healing that round. Her next attack knocked me out cold.

The monk went next and said something to the effect that she’d leave the healing to Druid since he had spell slots left. He told her that he wanted to “do a thing” so she should probably shove some healing potions down my throat. So the monk, who had been taking out minions this whole time, had to run across the room, risking taking a big hit, to shove her potion and mine down my throat. Keep in mind, the Druid was still invisible.

Druid took his turn and did his big “thing” which was to come at her from behind and attack, trying to gouge out her eyes. He only landed two attacks and did less than 20 damage so only poked out one eye. I know you can’t help it if an attack is successful, but the frustration was real as I was one of the people doing hella damage. We got her soon after and Druid got the death blow. I know it’s petty but the ranger, wizard and I had gotten her to nothing so it sucked that he got the kill but that is me being petty.

We returned to the village and leveled up then went shopping. Well Druid did. I was looking at my new spells so I wasn’t paying attention to what he bought.

The next day he Dms me and brags about his new half plate armor that gave him a 21 ac. I mentioned it to my partner who had been playing and dm-ing for 4 years and is currently playing a Druid. He told me that druids can’t wear metal so he couldn’t use the half plate. I passed that on to Druid and he said “I haven’t seen that rule before” It’s literally on the character page and probably on his sheet. So I sent him a screen shot of the rule. His response was a gif of someone saying “shhh”. I didn’t want to snitch but it really bugged me that he was asking me to be dishonest and trying to get away with being OP’d. I told him I wasn’t going to tell the Dm but that it wouldn’t be in the spirit of the game to keep it. Besides, I said, the character is pretty OP as is. He just responded with a “yeah he’s pretty powerful” and that was it.

I’m not sure what to do now. I’m not trying to police anything but it doesn’t feel fair to the rest of us for him to cheat. I don’t want to narc but I also don’t think he will be honest. If he doesn’t tell the dm, what should I do?

Also, I know that dm should have been on top of that but she’s got a lot on her plate and can be kind of spacey.

Any advice? Edit/update: I ended up messaging the dm bd she sorted it out. Druid apparently made a little fuss but went with it in the end. Thankfully the dm kept me out of it with him so he doesn’t know I narked. Thank you everyone for your help and encouragement!