I strongly believe my attachment style is dismissive avoidant. Making this discovery has been very relieving because now a lot of stuff that has happened in my past makes sense. Like all the people i've cut off & how much I like my personal space/time.

I just really don't want to come across like one of the whiney people nowadays complaining about all their "mental health" issues(idk if this is even considered a mental health issue, but I know it has caused a lot of loneliness & hardships in my life).

I do not know how to go about knowing this information. Do I tell people? Or keep it to myself while I work on it? Do I even work on it? Or should I just learn to live with it, in the sense that I acknowledge I am very selective with who I choose to have in my life & i can be very distant from those who don't make the cut.

Something that I have done, which I am kinda proud of, I stopped cutting people off so much. I just allow myself to become very distant from them, BUT i mentally acknowledge that they are still in my life. I don't mentally cut them off or worse, tell them we're done. I just become distant & patiently wait for me to get over whatever feelings I have that have caused me to want to cut them off or become distant. (I know this isn't fair to them & harms the relationship, but it's better than cutting them off imo)

& This is a bonus question if you care to give me a little further advice.

How do you know when it is appropriate to cut someone off? Like i know it is healthy to cut some people off sometimes, but i have known for a while now that I have had a problem with cutting people off & I do it TOO much. How do you differentiate when you're cutting someone off because you're being avoidant vs. when you're cutting them off for a good reason.