So I'm asking this question on behalf of my mom who is new to wheelchairs from two accidents back to back.

She's part time in a wheelchair (more like 80% wheelchair while outside the house, and 60% using a walker inside the house). She can still walk on some days, can still feel everything in her back/legs. She just had a surgery on her her hip and the doctor at the follow up did his check up and, according to her, "moved my leg a tiny bit to twist it, lifted it a couple inches, and then he was done."

I've had doctors look at me during an exam, poke my back a couple times, and then say I'm fine so I have no doubt that this happened, especially while she's in a wheelchair. But I'm wondering if this should be the new normal for being in a wheelchair? Because her being poked a bit and then the "exam" is over is something that is happening more and more. The doctors and hospitals where she lives are horrible (part of why I am happy to move away) but she has very limited options for medical care.

If this is normal, what do you do? How do you advocate for yourself without passing of the doctor? If this isn't normal, what do you suggest she does?