Tl;Dr

I am a seasoned kinkster (12 years of experience in kink), hetero-male-Dom (32M) seeking to switch teams and become a submissive for a gentle Domme F18-25 for a FLR. I am looking to be owned, nurtured, and objectified as a boyfriend or submissive male.

Ideally, I'm looking for a young Alpha-girl who wants to boss me around and play with me. Basically, I'm looking for THIS (SFW) & THIS (NSFW) as a dynamic/relationship.

Open to Domme/sub switches who'd like to utilize my skills as a Dom as well, but I am prioritizing dominant girls and ladies who want to top me, both sexually and personality-wise.

About Me

• Age and Location: 32-year-old male located in Northern California, in the SF Bay Area. I am able and prefer to host, but I am comfortable travelling (if finances are willing). Relocation is negotiable.
• Interests, hobbies, and SFW Passions: My main SFW interests are fairly bookish and pretentious. I'm heavily invested in academic philosophy, science, and economics with a smattering of geopolitics, pop culture, film & literary criticism. My main active hobby is weightlifting & fitness (sooo original, I know) and I enjoy casually hanging out with friends watching bad movies, or playing videogames solo in my downtime. My current, driving passion is writing...
• Current work or education or projects: ... and I'm currently working on my second book. It's been a blast to work on and I am so immeasurably fortunate to be able to write, essentially full-time. My current project is a novel. My highest level of education is graduate studies (incomplete due to covid), and I have a Bachelor's degree. My last full-time job was in the finance industry.
• Height, weight, body type information: I am ~6 feet tall, I weigh anywhere from 185-205 pounds (based on how much I am slacking off at the gym), and I generally describe my body as either "fit-, bearish-, dadbod". I am black/mixed with black hair (currently shaved head) and beard, I am rather hirsute, and the opposite of a 'twink' (willing to shave/alter appearance/cut-fat or gain muscle if you desire). I am decently hung (8 inches long, reasonably thick) for my size.
  
• Any other important SFW information: I am heterosexually polyamorous, with one LTR nesting partner (F26, bi, cuckquean) and one recently-acquired, long-distance submissive (F19, lesbian, lg/puppy/beta). Neither of my partners need to be part of our dynamic, but both would be willing to (at different levels based on interest and comfort) if you are interested in being the Alpha of my relationships. My LTR is non-negotiable, and I have at least non-sexual commitments to my submissive that are likewise non-negotiable. I would really enjoy being your slut, but I am willing to become closed-poly (i.e. not gain any additional partners/no hookups) if you want me to be more yours.
• SFW pictures: I will send pictures in chat immediately after introductions!

My Ideal Domme

I have a lot of preferences, but they are almost all negotiable! I would really like a younger partner, as I think the idea of a young Domme putting me in my place is awesome (I also typically happen to date younger-), so if you are a young new Domme please contact me! [Note: I've been involved in kink for years, and I am totally able to provide out-of-role 'guidance' if you're new to owning a sub, without disrespecting your authority.]

• Age Range: 18-25 Years Old (soft limit, numbers are numbers!) - I'm willing to forgo age-range preferences for a good match!
• Location: Anywhere and/or Online! Responses will be slower based on time zones farther away from me, but I'm totally willing to start online/remote and have things be LDR.
• Body type / height / weight: I prefer slim or athletic (muscles are 😍) builds. I am attracted to short and tall ladies (both have different, fun aspects). Weight matters less to me than body type (numbers are numbers!).
• Personality traits: Commanding, Charismatic, Nurturing, and Witty - in no particular order or percentage! I have a track record for liking the "popular/cheerleading girl" type when it comes to dominant ladies, if that sounds like you!
• Physical traits: Only Ciswomen, please! All colors and features are beautiful, to me. If you're a blonde girl with colored eyes, I will fall in love with you, this is a warning.
  
• Preferred Domme style: More or less in order of preference: Gentle Dommes, Mistresses, Mommy Dommes, and Primal Dommes. I'm open and interested to a variety of different play styles, but prefer affection and kindness over out-right sadism.

My Femdomme Preferences

As stated at the top, I am interested in a Domme taking me on in a FLR as a boyfriend, slut, or in a formal D/s relationship as a submissive. I am also interested in MMlb play, if you're extra nurturing. Essentially, I am a very charismatic, personality-wise-dominant man who wants you to take the reigns away from me, both interpersonally and sexually. I might be more 'boring' than some subs, in that I do not have masochistic tendencies & am not into extreme humiliations or degradation (with soft limits), but I am very interested in some bottom-heavy play that gives you all the power.
Ideally I'd like you to be my new girlfriend who domineers me in public and treats my body like a play-thing in private. I'm very interested in JOI (I almost never jerk off, fyi), forced orgasm, and edging (which I will be very bad at haha). I am not very orally fixated, but will be if you'd like me to be! I am very practiced in CnC and TPE from a Top-perspective, and have always secretly wanted it from the bottom-perspective. Would love gloryhole play and am very excited for- (and shy about-) getting pegged!

• My *Complete* Kinklist (Nota Bene: I included both my 'Dom' and 'sub' interests if it is confusing, in case you would like to be an active switch/would like me to service-Top you).
• My Favorite Kinks: JOI, orgasm control/forced orgasm, CNC, TPE, gloryhole, pegging.
• My hard limits: Blood, scat, genital torture, masochism (as subject), cuckholding (as cuck), bestiality, necro.
• Preferred D/s style(s): FLR💕, MMlb, D/s (in that order).
• Previous D/s experiences: 12 years in BDSM as a Dominant/Sadist/Pet-Owner/Daddy between six different partners (one active submissive, currently); I have been a Bull for cuckolds; I am currently the 'hothusband' for my cuckquean nesting partner. I have experience in restraint-bondage, impact play, submissive/slave training, CnC, and some edge-play topics. I have been part of area Munches / groups in the past, and attend BDSM events on a semi-annual basis.
• Other information: I use "ye olde formal S&M Contract" system for TPE/edgeplay. I use the stoplight system for entering/existing play, and I am a big fan of 'sanity checks' and communication. I am regularly STI/STD tested, and have never tested positive for a STD/STI. I prefer unprotected sex, but obviously that would now be up to you (including my use of protection with other partners). At the risk of being hypocritical (I am, I know, I suck), I would prefer to be your only male partner.
• Links to NSFW Pictures: Again, will send pictures in chat for interested Dommes!

Next Steps

Please send me a message/chat with your age & location, we can chat about your own 'About Me' info, what aspects of my post you'd be interested in, and whatever pictures you feel comfortable sharing! I will respond ASAP with SFW&NSFW pictures. Please inform me if you want me to use honorifics from the get-go. I would like to verify over voicechat (cell #, telegram, or SC) before any commitments are made. (If you're a new Domme we can take NSFW/play stuff slow; however, if you're comfortable, please just take control as you'd like!)

• How to Contact: Reddit chat - I have a Wickr, kik, sc, and telegram if you'd prefer. I would prefer to move off Reddit chat after you've selected me, and decided I am a good fit (preferable to regular old cell phone/iMessage).
• Verification requirements: I'd like to voice-verify after you've selected me and we've chatted for a while. I would like to do FaceTime/video chat verification as things progress - I'll simply ask, and you can demand it whenever you'd like.
• Likely response time: I will try to respond ASAP, with a maximum wait time of 24 hours after receiving your message. I will respond to every message I get, it might just take a bit.

Thanks for your time! I look forward to you finding me! ❤️