Honestly, the TL:DR is pretty much the title, so I'll dive right in.

My kinks, both online and in person, are control, dominance, and micromanagement. I'm particularly interested in the idea of managing how you behave/act, especially outside of a sexual context. I enjoy you relying on me for guidance/help with decisions. I want to control you outside of the bedroom in particular. Stuff like expecting you to dress a certain way, wear your hair a certain way, exercise at specific times. I've done things like schoolwork management, but I don't really care what the context is as much as that you need the help. If you're having trouble sticking to a schedule working/studying from home, I'm all about that.

If you're just not getting shit done because you need to be directly accountable to somebody - that's pretty much my jam. I genuinely enjoy it, and I love having a partner who benefits from it.

I tend to be more focused on rewards over punishments, and when I do use punishments, they tend not to be 'funishments'. I'm more likely to have you writing lines or kneeling in a corner than a spanking. In my experience, spankings are entirely too fun.

I do enjoy consensual non-consent and reluctance. I want you to need this, you don't necessarily need to like it. I think the person I'm looking for will understand this distinction really clearly. That said, I don't want this to be intermittent and I don't want large gaps in the time we spend together. I want you available to me.

I'd like to emphasize that for me the fun of this is primarily the control and behavioral modification aspect - if you're not into the idea of this, and you don't need that part of it, I won't be a good fit for you. I tend to view sexual stuff as a means to an end, i.e. another way to help modify your behavior. That isn't to say that we'll never have any fun, but I just like to lay out my mindset for you. My view of this is that my attention should make you substantially better behaved, and better performing. Lets put it this way - if you made me pick between reviewing your calendar for the day and a picture of your outfit vs edging you until you were begging, I'd pick the calendar/outfit pic over the edging every single time.

Though I admit, all of that sounds pretty fun.

I'm interested in something online only for now. I prefer text over voice/video but I'm fine with either if we develop to that point. I'm not interested in sharing a lot about myself at this point, if that's a dealbreaker, that's very understandable, but it won't change until we've gotten to know one another. I will say I've got a couple cats, just 'cuz they're not optional in the event that this does develop past online only. I'll also say that I'm single and will likely expect you to be as well, though some discussion on this point is fine. I do have a fairly strong preference for no kids.

I'm fairly nerdy - I play a lot of games in my free time, and I'm not super traditionally masculine - I work out and enjoy it, but for example, but I'm not super macho and I'm not really planning to be. I'd say that realistically, I don't come off like a traditional Dom - if you're looking for an alpha dude, I'm a poor fit. I'm a pretty stereotypical introvert in that I keep a fairly small, tight social circle, but I do enjoy trying new stuff, particularly trying new foods/visiting new places. This should give you a pretty good idea of whether we fit together or not.

I think that basically covers the general stuff - If you're interested, shoot me a message here with a couple questions and a little information about yourself. If you're hard up for topics, I'd suggest what resonated with you about this post or why you think this would be a good fit for you.