About me: 30. White. 6 feet tall. Slim but fit. Hung. Big hands.... Can share face pics privately and can verify.

I will be honest with you, doms are humans too. Many things I read here and on Fet are not, in my opinion, realistic. There seems to be an expectation that being dominant means you are always in command, always confident, and always in control. You can do that for a scene perhaps but I'm not looking for a scene. I'm looking for a relationship.

I'll start off by saying I don't expect perfection or some 24/7 dynamic. It might be alluring to think of a limitless slave but it is (I feel) equally unrealistic as a Dom to always be in control. I speculate a lot of the reason I read so many posts like this is that people don't have a lot of experience. Not that I have some vast, infinite amount either. Each dynamic has to be built out over time, and each ends up different.

I really don't mind if I meet someone on here who doesn't have a lot of experience but having some often helps be more realistic with expectations. I love building and having a dynamic around control. Seeing my partner yield to me and trust me. For me that trusting power exchange is the most important thing about a dynamic. But as kinky as I am I cannot pretend that those parts of my life are enough. If I cannot carry on a conversation with you about some interesting topic or adventure and explore the world together than I doubt I will be interested.

I like discipline and protocol, helping my partner and taking care of them (don't read that as I want an age regressed little please). I just want my partner to be physically and mentally healthy and thrive. I'd like to have a family, travel the world and love every moment of life we can have together. I thrive on challenge and achievement so I want a partner with ambition. I'd like to find my equal partner who has an unequal role. A lock and a key, different functions much better together. I know it sounds grandiose, and it is. I'm an old soul and a bit of a hopeless romantic. I fight for my dreams and goals but I'm old enough to be realistic too. I am open to relationships that start at a distance as long as you're open to meeting at some point. You can ask me anything and I will try to answer, but try to say more than just "hi" and put in some effort that reveals some of who you are if you want my attention.