Write to me if you can relate: you’re a professional who’s smart and sexy and has her life together, but you crave something more. In your day life, you’re a strong personality - accomplished and even an authority and leader at work, but behind closed doors, you crave being on your knees, on all fours, letting your inner whore out. You have the gift of gab, and enjoy communicating and daydreaming about finding yourself in precarious scenarios makes you wet. But…. you’re not sure how to find someone to explore safely with, even though the desire keeps coming back. You’re not looking for emotional attachment in the romantic sense, but you do want a deeper with physical and even mental connection. The word might be “demisexual”. (And maybe you’re already coupled or married, I also welcome couples play if your partner is into that.) At least, you want someone who respects you as a person outside of a “scene”, but is going to be assertive and push you and even thoroughly use you behind closed doors. And now you find this post and you wonder, maybe, just maybe you should reach out?

Maybe I can help. I’ve been active with BDSM and related kinks for over two decades now. I’m 42, by the Capitol Hill/Downtown Seattle neighborhood, and probably like you - am a successful professional who likes to indulge in kink after stressful work. Makes for a complete life, right? I’m well cultured and can speak at length about cinema and good food, and at the same time, like to get into a deep exploration of our deeper instincts. I care about leaving your life better for having known me. I’m tall and healthy, and although I enjoy a size contrast with my female subs, that’s no limit.

Here are some things you might find interesting.

One of my biggest turn ons is actually to listen to a woman’s fantasies with an open mind, then describe from my experiences what I’ve done that’s similar, and how we could make it really happen for you. For example, I am not naturally into DDLG, but learned how to become more proficient at it with past subs.

While ongoing is preferable, if you just want to do a one and done night stand or even a quickie to check it off your bucket list, we can do that too. It’s its own thing and I have some great memories with girls who wanted to submit for a night.

I have a breeding and creampie fetish, but have also had a vasectomy so you won’t get knocked up for real. One of the ways to indulge in this without you worrying about birth control.

I have a thing for semi-public play. I know how to do it safely but in an exciting way, so you don’t have to worry about getting arrested. After dark, us creatures of night. Inquire within.

I am sensual. I like sensory deprivation and even if you’re blindfolded and servicing me. I am great with coordination and if you ever want to be shared with other men, well, I’ve done a lot of that too.

I am very responsive and like receiving head, and giving feedback. I am not one of those guys who’s quiet during sex, and whether it’s moaning with pleasure or giving you affirmations, you’ll be sure to know how good a job you’re doing. I am very praise oriented when it comes to training.

One of the better things I’ve done is helped women who’ve been through abusive and traumatic relationships, and helped orient them towards a direction of empowerment, using kink as a tool to reframe past memories and move forward.

Throughout it all, I just ask that we treat each other with mutual respect. Be mature enough to let me know if you’re interested in diving into this deeper with me, or the opposite, if you want to call things off, don’t ghost me. It’s not nice.

Still with me? I'd love to hear from you, please send me a detailed introduction of you. Pictures can wait if you’re feeling shy or want to be discreet at first, this is far from my first rodeo so I understand. Isn’t it time to open the doorway to adventure?