Hi, this is a long post. Also, Not looking for couples to swing.

I’m (38M) in an open but committed relationship with her (39F). We’re keen to try a threesome with another lady next month on my birthday. We’re new to this so let’s take things one step at a time. Ideally, we chat on Reddit, then in person, and then arrange to meet at a hotel for a good time. I (M) won’t send any photos of us (beyond what is shared here) or give you our real names, any personal details and contact info nor would I ask of you these things except for the below:

To root out time-wasters, please send a photo of you holding a piece of paper like this. Be sure to mosaic any identifiable body parts and your face. Also, tell me what caught your attention and what you wish to happen and we can take it from there. Let’s keep things discreet.

The Threesome Experience:

Ideally, the encounter should feel like three friends coming together to have fun without judgement, getting naked and trying out what feels good sexually on each other while guiding each other in the process. We would, of course, have to communicate about our sexual wants and needs and dos and don’ts to be observed beforehand so everyone is on the same page and feel comfortable and relaxed.

We’ll (gladly) pay for the hotel and check in together and ensure belongings and mobile phones are placed in the closet so everyone feels assured about not being recorded with hidden devices.

We can have some drinks(optional) to loosen up before getting naked though we’re not big drinkers and don't wish to get drunk.

Then we can take things slowly, maybe slip into our undies and appreciate each other's bodies and check in with each other every step of the way while we ease into the main event. Any penetrative sex between you and I, if any, will be with condoms. If you’re bisexual, my partner and I would love to tag team to pleasure you and rock your world, but if you’re just interested in having sex with her, that's fine too. I don’t mind not having sex or not touching you. We just have to work out the “logistics” of how to tag team to pleasure her without infringing on your sexual arousal or needs. However, you need to be comfortable with me being in the room, possibly naked and having an erection. But I can also be fully clothed if you prefer. Point is, we need to discuss these things beforehand so we all get what we want. But she cannot be left out. Hence we're not looking for totally straight women.

In any case, I will likely be aroused but I won’t do anything that makes you feel uncomfortable. I may even leave the room if you have zero interest in me and both you and her are comfortable being alone playing with each other.

At the end of the day, I just want to try a threesome with her to see what the fuss is about. So your pleasure and her pleasure are of the utmost important. It might be a one-time only thing or a longer-term thing. It really depends as we’ve never tried this before.

You:

• Non-smoker, no bad breath
• Healthy looking, not too fat or too skinny
• A must: Bi-curious or bisexual(preferably) or a lesbian who is okay with (my) male nudity or my presence. Not looking for totally straight women.
• Enjoys sucking on boobs and licking pussy.
• Smells nice, well-groomed, shaven or trimmed. Genital hygiene is extremely important.
• Very clean, as in, showers before and after sex if necessary to stay fresh and clean
• Important: Communicative about sex. Well-mannered. Mature and easy-going.
• A plus: enjoys dirty talking during sex

Her:

• 1.6 m tall, curvy but slim, active
• Tanned (brown)
• Bicurious
• Has fantasies of watching me having sex with another woman.
• Has fantasies of playing with another woman's boobs.
• Mature looking (please manage your expectations)
• has a sexy voice

Me:

• 1.8m tall, muscular but slim
• looks younger than my age
• Shaven, well-groomed, smells nice
• Mild mannered and polite
• Average cock size
• Average looking only (please manage your expectations)

TLDR: Mature couple looking for a pleasant, easy-going lady to have a threesome. Please read the details of the post.