Hi all, a Dutch subby guy here that is into latex, bondage and some messy stuff.

Focus for me is not on (vanilla) sex, but on fetishes and exploration. I'll list the a bit further down, but that list is by no means exhaustive. Domming is not really my thing, I am more submissive, but with a bratty lining to it. Online discussions are nice, but ultimately I am looking for a live relationship, not online play.

I am in an open relationship, do sports regularly and listen mostly to metal and synthwave. I play RPG's, builder and strategy games from time to time. I am also trying to brew my own beer. We don't need to match on that, but would be a nice extra.

If you are interested, please send send me a PM and tell me what you find particularly interesting about my post.

Age and Location

In general I am pretty flexible for both age and location. Ideally I am looking for someone roughly around 23~55. I'm only looking for people that are willing to meet up at some point. Does not have to be right away, but you need to live in a travel-able distance from me. This means the Netherlands, Belgium and the western parts of Germany.

Types of relationships

Depending on your (presenting) gender, I feel comfortable exploring in different roles. For male (presenting) partners I would like to sub, to femme (presenting) partners I am also willing to be the dominant. Anyone is fine as a play partner though.

My way of being in control is not really forceful. I am more of the teasing or negotiation type. So rather via bets and dares, rather than raw domination. As a sub I don't just listen to each and all requests (well if not hypnotized as a drone), but I won't describe myself as a brat either.

Kinks

My main kink is latex/rubber. That is not to say I won't enjoy anything else, but I feel it is a central part of what I would like to explore. I'm working on a clothing style/esthetic that work for me, but that is still in the works. So far I am leaning to some kind of femme-industrial-punk-drone thing, but this is still evolving.

Next to it are things that deal with (de)personification, so hypnosis, dronification and objectification. I like the idea of (temporarily) giving up control to a partner, but only in the context of the play/scene. I am not looking for someone to control normal life stuff. Apart from the soft/mental kind of restriction, I am also into the physical kind: bondage, mummification, locked-in-latex and other movement restricting kinks.

However, domination or restriction does not always have to be forceful, I am also into predicament play and games, bets and dares with a kinky twist to them. As a dominant, I also use the more soft approach of teasing or daring.

Furthermore, I have always had a thing with wet and messy, bathroom control, saliva, etc. I know these kinks are not what most people have in mind when they think of 'dirty play time', so it is optional and great if you are into it as well.

As you might have noticed, I didn't list a lot of kinks that are really about sex. I do like things like anal, oral and (reluctant) sex, but normal vanilla sexual acts are not really of interest to me.

Limits

Limits would be public (fetish parties are fine), findom, needles, blood, permanent alterations, non-con. For online play I am pretty privacy aware and while technically not against limits, I do need some time to get to know you before I start sending pictures and video's. I am also not looking for someone who controls my day-to-day behavior. So no clothing restrictions or behavior rules in my day-to-day professional life.