Are you finding yourself curious about BDSM, wanting to find a fun, safe outlet for your stress, enjoy being controlled and are looking for the next step? Maybe you are just getting out of a relationship, or want some practical skills to get into a relationship, or maybe just doing some research and are now ready to put what you've learned into practice?

If so, what I offer may be right for you. I offer an online BDSM-lite, introduction into the dynamic. It is perfect for beginners or those with busy lives. This flexibility lets you explore this side of yourself, even if you are relatively inexperienced, in a long-term relationship, or just looking for a safe, online environment to explore your feelings. It will give you the sense of being supported, owned, and controlled, but in a modern way that acknowledges that you must still be a bad-ass woman in your day-to-day life.

I have significant experience with this kind of dynamic, having been involved in in-person and online BDSM for about 12 years now. I have a solid understanding of how to approach, guide, train, and support a turmoil of feelings, as we continue to evolve this together.

To be clear, this is a kind of relationship that we form. It has rules, structure, and shared goals, but it also involves real thoughts, real feelings, and an openness that comes with a genuine connection. Taking the time to establish this connection is very important.

The main structure of the dynamic is task based. This typically starts at one task a day, with text chatting throughout. These low-level tasks while still communicating, helps to give a sense of low-level, throughout the say, subspace. Things start slow, with writing & discussion tasks, but orgasm control, edging, hole training, being told what to wear, and submissive sexual acts are all part of what I'd expect my submissive to work towards eventually. The focus is on control, dominance and submission. Explicit consent is, of course, required for everything that we do!

From me, you receive unwavering support, encouragement, and attention. Of course this will focus on the dynamic, but it certainly isn't restricted to it. I want to hear about your day. Tell me about your crappy day at work. Let's talk about whether you should take night classes to finish your degree. Encouragement to go work out? I'm there. That's what this about. Shared enjoyment, fun, and support.

A little about me. I'm 31, from New Zealand originally (still have the accent), but currently living in the US. I am in a long-term relationship, but my partner is a-sexual, and so is very supportive of this being my outlet. I am very driven, with a corporate career in technology. I love to travel and explore new places, be it a new city, country, or hiking trail. I love games of all kinds, from computer to tabletop and board games. The fun of interacting with friends in that structured environment is actually pretty similar to the dynamic. I am 6 foot , 160 pounds, fit, blue eyes, and like to keep active.

If you're interested, message me with your first name, age and what you’re looking to get out of this. Let's start the conversation and go from there.