so - i’m looking for something a bit different than the usual posts you see on this subreddit. i mostly come across requests that are looking for nothing more than sex acts without any real connection between two people. i don’t get any satisfaction or pleasure from interactions like that.

now on to the details, i guess?

let’s get the major things out of the way first - i currently identify as non-binary, leaning masculine, but am afab. my gender identity is something i am still exploring and coming to terms with, so it fluctuates, but it’s safe to say i’m not a cis woman. i’m 27.

i’m primarily attracted to people who identify as men, being cis or trans doesn’t make a difference to me. usually i prefer my partner to be older than me, but as long as you’re over 23 or so i don’t really care that much. any younger is iffy for me - not a hard limit but something i may not be comfortable with.

i’m mostly looking for something based around online interaction, but i’m not opposed to in person meet ups. however, i have a lot of social anxiety/awkwardness/apprehension, so i need to find some comfort and familiarity through online means before that’s an option. i’m located in the jefferson county area of kentucky, close to indiana and ohio as well. definitely willing to travel if i really connect with someone.

kink wise, i'm into toys, light bondage, light pain, general dom/sub and bdsm themes, light dd/l, some watersports (really just the desperation/wetting or control aspects)? these are things i know of, but i'm open to exploring a lot with the right partner. some hard limits are incest (roleplay is a no), bestiality, scat, raceplay. my list here gives a bit of a better idea - maybes are things i'd be interested in exploring but haven't yet. https://i.imgur.com/MWgj6KO.png

outside of sexual stuff, i'm a bit of a nerd! i like science fiction, some fantasy, true crime, psychology, and general spooky shit. i'm probably reading, listening to podcasts, writing, or coding in my free time. speaking of, free time is something i don't have a lot of at the moment. i've been working six days a week for a few months now, and while it's a generally chill office gig, it can still be exhausting. i'll be cutting back slightly on work hours in the new year, but in favor of going back to school, so will effectively be just as preoccupied.

i think i'll end things here, as i'm sure i've probably lost most of you by now! if you're interested, please reach out. tell me a bit about yourself and what about my post intrigued you. messages with no effort put forth will be ignored. likewise, please don't be dismayed if i don't respond instantly - i'm very busy and also an overthinker, so i tend to do quite a lot of general anxiety-ing before sending messages. i promise i'll get back to you if you send me more than one line.