Are you curious about BDSM, intrigued by the dynamic, enjoy being controlled and are looking for the next step, or been doing some research and are now ready to give it a go? If so, what I offer may be right for you. I offer an online introduction into the dynamic, really targeted as a BDSM-lite, it is perfect for beginners or those with busy lives. This flexibility lets you explore this side of yourself, even if you are relatively in-experienced, in a long-term relationship, or just looking for a safe, online environment to explore your feelings. It will give you the sense of being supported, owned, and controlled, but in a modern way that acknowledges you must still be a bad-ass woman in your own-right.

I have significant relationship experience with the dynamic. Both in-person and online, and so have a solid understanding of how to approach, and guide, the training, turmoil of feelings, and situations that occur within the dynamic .

For me, it's important that we get to know each other. This is a slice, or portion, of a relationship that we form. Sure, it has rules, structure, and shared goals, but it also involves real thoughts, real feelings, and an openness that comes with a relationship. Taking the time to establish this connection is very important.

From there, my online submissive is given tasks to complete each week. This starts at one task a day, with text chatting throughout. This helps to give a sense of subspace, that connection, in relationship to the dynamic. Things start slow, with writing & discussion tasks, but orgasm control, edging, hole training, being told what to wear, and submissive sexual acts are all part of what I'd expect my submissive to work towards eventually. The focus is on control, dominance and submission. Explicit consent is, of course, required for everything that we do.

From me, you receive unwavering support, encouragement, and attention. Of course this will focus on the dynamic, but it certainly isn't restricted to it. I want to hear about your day. Tell me about your crappy day at work. Let's talk about whether you should take night classes to finish your degree. Encouragement to go work out? I'm there. That's what this about. Shared enjoyment, fun, and support.

A little about me. I'm 30, from New Zealand originally (still have the accent), but currently living in the US. I am in a long-term relationship, but my partner is a-sexual, and so is very supportive of this being my outlet. I am very driven, with a strong career in technology. I love to travel and explore new places, be it a new city, country, or hiking trail. I love games of all kinds, from computer to tabletop and board games. The fun of interacting with friends in that structured environment is actually pretty similar to the dynamic. I am 6 foot , 160 pounds, fit, blue eyes. I have a 14 year old Finnish Spitz who keeps me active, needing at least an hour walk every day.

If you're interested, message me with your first name, age and what you’re looking to get out of this. Let's start the conversation and go from there.