Hello all! As the title says, I’m a male Ler/Dom looking to find girls who are interested in a tickling session, ideally in or close enough to Columbus. This can be as intimate or platonic as you like, I’m up to varying levels of bondage, intensity, and pretty much anything. I want your comfort to be the main priority. I’ll get more into that in the rest of my post though.
So what would this entail? (An overview/a tl;dr)
Well, I would want to lead up to it slowly, Since everything in a Dom/Sub relationship is built off of trust in general this would of course be no different. We would meet up after talking about it for a while and getting to know each other, become more comfortable with each other in person, and then slowly move to a gentle first tickle session. I have a few different speeds which we can start with depending on if you are new to kinks in general or if you are just new to tickling. Never in my sessions would nudity or sex be involved (unless we get pretty far into it which would be after a while.. more on that later), just tickling to varying levels of intensity.
A bit about why I love tickling:
A big part of it is the control but I also love how it can be equally, if not more, psychological as it is physical. Teasing verbally, threatening to tickle certain spots, making my sub admit how ticklish they are and ask for more tickling. I love the touch and intimacy that that touch brings, I love the laughter of course as well. I also love all the different ways you can tickle a single spot! But I can get more into that later... I do love teasing how exactly I would tickle -you- and it's different for every person.
A look into what our first session would be:
For our first session there wouldn’t even be bondage, it would just include my seeing where you are ticklish, how ticklish you are, and how long you can stand being tickled for. I'd see how long you could hold your arms up while being tickled or how long you can hold your feet on my lap without pulling them away for instance.
For sessions after that we would move on to light bondage/being held down and tools/toys (brushes, combs, lotion, pipe cleaners, pens, et cetera... those are actually all mainly for feet, but I tickle any/everywhere), and continue from there with however we are both comfortable. Here is an example of some of my tickle tools. There isn't a "one size fits all" rate of progression for my sessions, some people will want to go intense quick, some want to spend a lot of time in the gentle/early sessions stages. My sub's comfort is always the most important thing to me.
To touch on something I mentioned earlier, I'll be upfront and state that I am Demisexual, so sexual acts won't be included or even really thought about unless we become long long term partners... it's jut how I operate really. I am willing to discuss this, but please know that it is something that isn't just a rule of mine, it is who and what I am. Thank you for understanding and respecting that.
Aftercare/safety:
Aftercare is very important to me, so we will always spend a lot of time with that as well, making sure you're hydrated, I'd offer a massage if you are comfortable with it, and do whatever else you need to help come down/from that space (cuddling is also big with me). Aftercare can be just as varied as kinds of subs/doms so I would want to know what -you- usually want and need from your aftercare and of course I would provide. Know that I am not only talking about physical aftercare, but of course emotional/mental aftercare as well (Praise, building you back up, assurance, whatever you need.)
For more intense sessions I wouldn't only use a safe word, but a safe signal (X amount of fingers up) or a noise maker. Think a squeaker, or something else that you can squeeze/press, in case you can't say your word through laughter. We can also include different levels of safe words if you prefer/like that setup. A Red, Yellow, Green type of system. I'm pretty open!
Covid worries:
I'm definitely willing to have this be online for a while, maybe even just video calls for a while due to Covid. Just let me know! Even before Covid became a major concern I was always big on Internet safety and I know that both parties are risking a lot entering into something like this, and I respect that. I don't want to push anything too quickly. Honestly I like getting to know my partner a lot before anything solid happens anyway so it'd be a bit like this anyway. You can never have too much of a connection before doing something dom/sub related after all!
If this sounds interesting to you, or if you’re curious, feel free to send me a message, I’m willing to answer any questions and elaborate on anything. Thanks for taking the time to read my post!
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