I'm a taken man, with a girlfriend of several years. I also spend a fair amount of time, in secret, chatting and playing with strangers online and have been doing so since I was a teen. It's an awful habit, for sure, but I'm simply compelled to do it every now and again as I just love connecting with people, discussing our kinks, and of course, playing online.

At any rate, I'd like to connect with someone new, in New York, for the express purpose of taking them to a unique strip club - more of an upscale lounge, really - located on the west side when I come to visit in early January (likely an evening between 1/7 and 1/10). Everything is above aboard and they have a liquor license, except unlike a lot of strip clubs, it's more laid back. There's no poles and no pressure. Just comfy couches and beautiful women milling about, eager to converse in a relaxed environment and dance for you if you care to part with $20 a song. I've been a few times in the past by myself and had a fantastic time. I'd like to go again when I visit soon, only this time I'd like you to join me.

Ideally we'd chat a bit online beforehand and get comfortable enough with each other, then we could meet at a neutral spot ahead of time or just head straight to the club, whatever your preference. I'll send you the club's website so you can see it's a legitimate place. We can make up a story as to who we are when we go - close friends reunited, coworkers, a committed relationship, etc. - or maybe after getting to know each other a bit in advance we'd feel comfortable going as ourselves. We can buy each other dances. We can dance to the music. Should we feel the vibe, I'm even down to engage in some making out and heavy petting (ok, fine, I'm really down for that), though nothing more. I've crossed several lines as it is, and while my moral compass may be broken, anything else feels like a bridge too far at the moment. While that means things will only get as far as R-rated, it also means there's no worry about some total stranger being pushy with you. The goal is to just have fun.

As for the rest of me, I'm 37, 6'2", with brown hair, blue eyes, glasses, a trimmed beard, and slim build. I've been referred to as "cute" by women that I would consider attractive by any metric; I'd describe myself as the handsome geeky type. Personal interests are standard fare: movies (I'll see anything from Parasite to Cats), TV (loved the Watchmen sequel series), and video games (last game played was Luigi's Mansion 3). Interested in a wide variety of kinks, from rough play to semi public fun and beyond. Have typically been dominant in the bedroom but also game to switch with the right woman, too. The type of woman I'm attracted to is of any race, height, and hair color, and without being able to come up with a better phrase for it, "conventionally attractive." Body type is slim to curvy; as long as you generally care about your appearance and take care of yourself I'm sure you look great.

So there you have it! Chances are I'll take this down once I come to my senses, but if it's still up, I'm still crazy enough to see what can come of it. Send me a message and we'll go from there. Hope to chat soon!

tl;dr - I'm a 37 year old, attached, handsome geek seeking a fun-loving woman to go to an upscale strip lounge with me when I visit New York in January (likely an evening between 1/7 and 1/10). We can discretely get to know each other online ahead of time, then meet up at the club, maybe buy dances for each other, maybe make out, and just have a grand ol' time. Given my taken status, I won't be crossing any more lines than that for now.