Thanks for checking out my post! I'm not really sure how to start this but....here it goes? I'm pretty new to reddit and kink in general. I wouldn't even really consider myself a "kinkster" but the idea and dynamic of cuckolding has been a constant shared fantasy in all of my previous relationships. It's never been something that I or a partner have actually acted on because, well, that's a really big fucking step lol. Fantasy is one thing but having an emotional connection and foundation of a relationship so rock solid that it can withstand the full force of real cuckolding? That's definitely a discussion haha. It's definitely a goal but I don't want you to reach out to me thinking "Yea, this is a 100% sure thing". It isn't. It's definitely a goal and a fantasy that's important enough to have shared with whoever my future partner is but lets just go ahead and start there:)
So, who am I and what am I looking for?
Well it's taking everything ounce of restraint to not type "I'm just a normal regular guy" but, that doesn't tell you anything. So, I'd say I'm very humor driven. I'm always making people laugh and in another life who knows, I might have been a comedian. But humor and making people happy and laughy is definitely important to me. I'm generally a monogamist, having only been in serious relationships. I'm not a big hookup guy. I get way more into emotional and relationship connection and support than I do from anonymous sex. I'm a guy that needs connection. I'm a bit of an extrovert. If you take me somewhere there's a 50/50 chance you'll lose track of me and find me talking with random people about their dog. Having a healthy lifestyle and healthy body is important to me. Don't take that as I'm some sort of fitness freak. I'm definitely not. I will absolutely CRUSH some pizza and snacks with you during our moving nights. But health is important and I found out a long time ago that I'm not just physically attracted to substantially larger individuals and it isn't fair for me to not live by that same standard. So, hopefully that didn't scare you off or come off as too shallow or anything. Suffice it to say I'm happy to chat and talk and share pictures and hope that there's mutual attraction!
I work full time in my career and am happy with it. I like to think I have a fair amount of ambition in life but what is WAY more important to me is that we have fun together. Laugh, play games, share memes, live the good moments of life and the bad, together. Have dinner dates, go out with other couples (vanilla haha), and all that jazz. As for what I like to do? Well after work it can be a number of things. I enjoy climbing, hockey, a quick workout, hikes, winter walks, puzzles, video games with friends, and the odd binge watch if something really grabs me. If it's a nice summer weekend maybe I'll grab a book and head to a cafe to get some reading done! I don't go out a ton at night as I'm sober but being around alcohol doesn't bother me in the slightest.
Emotionally I'd say I try to be on the secure attachment side of things, but it can definitely get into anxious attachment sometimes. I'm an avid believer of therapy and see a therapist regularly. I believe a healthy relationships starts with a healthy relationship with yourself.
Who am I looking for?
Someone who enjoys fun and life as much as I do. Hopefully a caring and kind individual. I see that a lot of the cuckolding kink can sometimes bleed into super heavy power dynamics and that's just not what I'm looking for or anything that would be healthy for me. I'm hoping you're a person who cares about themselves mentally and physically and has room in their life to let love in and have it flourish with me. There isn't a whole lot that I would consider a "dealbreaker". I'd honestly say as long as you're a person who is fun and genuine, someone who is into getting to know each other and making each other happy and being a positive aspect in each others' lives, and there's a base level of mutual attraction, we can make it work. I'm open to children with the right partner but I'm equally as open to a DINK lifestyle. I would say that if you reach out to me to chat and connect please plan on....connecting? If I was looking for one word dating app conversations I'd go to a dating app haha. My hope here is that I can put enough of myself out there that someone can really see this and say "yea, this person may be for me"
So, I'm located in MN, USA. Location is an issue at the moment and I do have to say I will probably not be in a situation where I can relocate for at least a few years. So, please keep that in mind when reading this. I'm happy to make the right LDR work but I think we also have to be realistic about what we can make work and what we can't. Meeting and physical, in person chemistry is important.
So, I think that's about it? As you maybe noticed, while this is a posting with a cuckolding backdrop it is just that, a backdrop. A real relationship comes first and that's the real prize. That's the real goal of this entire thing. As awesome and great as cucking is we can't have that without putting in the real work first or else it's just....two people having sex? lol. Ultimately I'm hoping to really and genuinely get to know you and form a lasting, amazing relationship.
As for my personal NSFW stuff, I'm a bit of a switch. I'm not an "alpha" cuck, whatever the fuck that means and I'm not a stag nor do I want to be. I prefer to stay on the committed side of my fence. But sexually, I've usually been asked to play to dom role on the past. I'm happy to do it, but I'm equally as happy with vanilla sex too. Or cuddles. Cuddles and a movie are fucking great. Sure, sex is great but have you opened yourself up to the possibility of real genuine, love? Because I'm open to it:)
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