ABOUT ME:

I feel that it's time to give this ad a 2025 upgrade:

Firstly, if you initiate contact with me you got to be thick skinned. Be combative. If you're thin skinned, it won't last. Walking on egg shells ain't fun.

I don't initiate contact. If you initiate contact with me, please do so with as much substance and length as I've put on this post.

You can sent me a message or a chat.

If I receive a substandard message or a message which contains few words and/or which is low effort, I can't promise that I'll reply. Nor can I promise that I won't put a curse on you.

I don't tolerate low effort messages. One of the previous initiate messages that I received was "I tried reading your post, but it was too long."

Suffice to say, the previous interaction didn't last.

There was also a sub whom I was messaging. My initial reply was early in the morning, and she asked, "Why are you up so early?"

From a stranger. Who are, my Mother? I don't mind it from someone for whom I have a bond with, etc. But a stranger? No.

Those type of message will not end well.

I've been away and out of commission for the past year, for reasons that I won't share here, but I'll happily share on a one-on-one basis.

I'm now ready to dip my toe back in the water and see what's out there. Or at least, my toenail.

I'm a writer and future (hopefully) author.

One of my main passions is cooking. I have a natural love and a flair for cooking. I spend a large portion of my life in the kitchen.

Cooking has always been intuitive and really natural to me. I can't bake worth a damn, though.

The only thing that I can bake is Pizza. Is that considered baking, though? I think it is. I've heard people say "I'm going to bake a pizza."

I'll take it.

But saying that, my dough sucks. It doesn't rise (insert impotence joke here). Which is fine, as I prefer thin crust pizza to the airy and bubbly crust.

Why would anyone prefer thick crust? It's just light dough. I treat crust as the vessel that holds the sauce, the cheese and the other toppings.

I can't bake desserts, though. I can bake apple pie, only if the puff pastry has been pre-made. I'm sure that's cheating, though.

Baking is a skill that I'll never be able to get a handle on. It's based on chemistry, sadly I'm not acquainted with cooking chemistry.

Recently I've been trying my hand at spice mixes. At this point I've created a Jerk dry rub and a Cajun rub.

They're actually really tasty. Tasty enough for them to label them as "complete."

I'm currently working on a BBQ Fajita spice mix. It's getting there. It's a work in progress.

My Curry BIR mix has been a work in progress for ever. Same with the BBQ Fajita mix, It's getting there.

I'm not really into "authenticity" when it comes to cooking. Cooking is about creativity, invention ans evolution. There's no such thing as "authenticity" when it comes to cooking.

If there was no evolution in cooking we'd all be eating rice, raisins and oats, and not much else

I briefly trained as a chef. Then I didn't.

I'm a deep thinker. I'm spiritual (NOT religious) and believe in the power of Chi. I believe in ghosts, other worlds, multiverses, and dimensions. I'm into meditation and self-improvement and self analysis. I'm a free-thinker and tend to think independently from the masses. I naturally deviate from convention and tread the path less trodden.

Humans are pack animals. The majority of people say and do things that will make them feel liked.

I am not like that.

Honesty is a virtue. If you don't want an honest answer, don't ask me a question.

I'd rather be hated for who I am than be loved for someone I am not.

I'm not a people person. I'm misanthropic. I can't stress that enough. I tend to connect better with "weird" people and people who deviate from "normality."

I'm an introvert. I'm private and I don't like being the centre of attention. In fact, I like to keep as far back from people and the spotlight as possible.

The darkness is my friend.

I'm a geek. Always have been, always will be. Back in the 80s and 90s there was much more chance of me being in the company of my Amiga, Spectrum, Master System, Mega Drive and Super Nintendo than a human being.

Not much has changed.

People talk about a "misspent youth." I spent my youth with celebrities such as Sonic the Hedgehog, Mario bros, Link and Zelda, Ken, Guile, etc.

I consider my youth to be spent wonderfully. I am privileged.

I don't really care about distance. I mean, let's be honest, the chance of meeting a compatible soul is improbable as it is, if you restrict it by means of geography and location, the "improbable" becomes the "impossible". Besides, it's 2025, not 1725. Distances can be bridged with the aid of heavy machinery.

Same goes with age. Older than me? Younger? Cool.

It takes a while to properly forge a strong relationship: It requires pillars of respect, trust, honesty, compatibility, and communication. None of those things come easily or without dedication, conviction, and time.

I'm a sapiosexual as well as a demisexual. I find intelligence very, very hot! Saying that, I'm not necessarily looking for a woman who is in MENSA. Intelligence comes in all shapes of sizes.

I require a mental, emotional, and spiritual bond before I can ponder a physical relationship.

I love "Star Wars", "Buffy the Vampire Slayer", "MCU" and "Harry Potter".

I'm not a social media person. I'm antisocial socially as well as social-medially.

Social media, and society in general, is full of anger and hate and toxicity. Everyone has opinions about everything. Everyone feels entitled to judge and belittle and edit everything and everyone.

Life is short. It's precious.

I would much rather work on self-improvement. I would rather elevate myself than edit and judge and denigrate and dedicate my precious time to strangers whom I don't know.

The sheer fact that society spends so much time and effort judging and criticising and generating strangers is a psychotic notion to me.

It's absolutely crazy. And I have zero time for it.

My communication method of choice is emails. With emails, you're able to convey mass amounts of information and details without interruption, therefore making the "getting to know you" process relatively quicker than short burst of texts on IM.

I'm deep, introspective, pensive, and morose. I feel more at ease and happiest when I'm alone. I barely tolerate people.

Movies: Fright Night 1 & 2, The Lost Boys, Nosferatu (1922), Interview with the Vampire, Dracula (1931), Buffy the Vampire Slayer, Shadow of the Vampire? Barefoot in the park, Breakfast at Tiffany's, My Fair Lady, Casablanca, Jerry Maguire, Serendipity, Say Anything, Almost Famous, Breakfast Club, Ferris Bueller's day off, Weird Science, Elvira: Mistress of the dark, Elvira: Haunted Hills, Dirty Dancing, The Big Sick, Star Wars (The original trilogy), Firefly.

Television: Buffy the Vampire Slayer, Angel, Crazy Ex-Girlfriend, It's Always sunny in Philadelphia, Wednesday, Seinfeld, Curb Your Enthusiasm, Sex and the City, The Simpsons, Scrubs. South Park.

Author/Writer: Jane Austen, Edgar Allen Poe, Bram Stoker, The Bronte Sisters, Emily Dickinson.

Music: The Smiths, The Cure, AC/DC

ABOUT ME: (Kink)

If you initiate contact with me then you must be aware that you have to impress me from the very first message.

My form of Dominance is one of psychology.

It's my belief that before you can conquer and control a body you must first take infiltrate the mind:

I want to know how you think, I want to know how your mind works, what you love, what you like, what you hate, and what you dislike. I want to know about your formative years, your upbringing, your parents, your family, etc.

As far as kink goes, I want to know about your experience as well as your dream dynamic. I want to know what turns you on, what your limits are and how willing you are to expand your horizons and how adaptive and open minded you are, etc.

A good relationship is all about growing together. It's all about learning and maturing and discovering new kinks as one entity, it's also about cultivating existing kinks.

This dynamic will be a living, breathing organism. It'll grow and develop and mature. It will be 24/7. It'll be all consuming, and it will be a life choice. A life lived together. Forever.

At work, you will be my submissive. At the supermarket and at the mall and out in public, you will be owned by me. Your every breath will contain a whisper that I own. Every thought will contain a note that I control.

It will be all-encompassing.

I want a relationship based on TPE. I'm not into "keeping it in the bedroom/behind closed doors", as that's too much like roleplay with an on and off switch and it's way too low energy for me.

You will learn from me, you will be taught, I will sculpt and mould and nurture you and train you to be the greatest version of yourself that you can be.

I'll listen. I'll be your coach. I'll be your teacher, your mentor, your confidant, your protector as well as your best friend.

I can not stress this enough. For a D/s dynamic to work, it has to be built on friendship. There must be unbreakable trust and respect. This is formed with communication, and compatibility. Every cylinder must be firing. Every molecule must be engaged.

We will be a team. We will listen, talk, laugh, share and learn from the other. Our bond will be stronger than any metal or element known to God or man.

This isn't an easy connection to develop. It takes honesty, trust, communication, and absolute dedication and faith. Come into this half-hearted, and it will not work.

My experiences in this place have been interesting. As a result of the length of my profile it's attracted a certain class of women: Scientists, Doctors, Psychiatrists, CEOs, etc. I even attracted a woman who swam in the same circles as the Clintons and Trumps.

It would appear that I attract women who wield power. Which makes sense, as my ad, whilst not to the length of "War and Peace," isn't for the faint of heart.

Plus, I'm sapiosexual. intelligence attracts intelligence.

It's a fact, that a decent percentage of people who are in high stress and powerful jobs will look to de-stress and unwind by shutting off and allowing a Dominant to take control.

So yes, i would say that, ideally, I'm seeking a woman who is a captain of industry. Someone who wield power.

This isn't a requisite or a deal breaker. It's just a very nice twist.

My main kinks are Goth, watersports. (While I would definitely accept a submissive who was open minded and willing to learn watersports, I'd rather a submissive who was already into it and it genuinely made them sexually aroused.) and Vampirism.

The Goth thing has always been ingrained in me. I've always been morose and introspective and I've always been attracted to those qualities.

Edgar Allen Poe has always been my muse. A Raven, my spirit animal.

I grew up being attracted to Morticia (and Wednesday) Addams, Elvira and Vampira.

I would enjoy a walk and a picnic in a cemetery (probably by candlelight) as much as normal people would would like a walk and picnic in a park.

My Goth kink and Vampirism kink are most probably linked.

I'm expecting a whole swarm of people to jump aboard the Vampirism train, soon, as a direct result of the recent success of "Nosferatu."

I suspect that'll be akin to the wave of vanilla people taking a peek into the world of BDSM, due to the popularity of "50 Shades of Grey."

Just know that I've had a Vampirism kink since the 80s/90s.

I suppose, both kinks are intrinsically linked. Both involve bodily fluids. Both are intimate and intense and both aren't exactly what you'd call common and normal.

Both kinks are taboo. Both kinks have been with my since I can remember. Both are extremely intimate and intense and sensual.

Sharing a body elixir, be it urine or blood. A most private fluid that rests in your body. A fluid that belongs to only you. A more intimate possession you could not own. An elixir that you are chosen to partake in, either by drinking or by wearing. Or, to give that honour up to another.

It's a sexually hedonist act and the most private and intimate act a couple could partake in.

Thinking about it, all three of my kinks are intrinsically connected.

Feel free to ask questions about the aforementioned kinks.

As I said, the TPE dynamic is huge for me. I want a dynamic that is 24/7, everlasting, all encompassing and forever flowing and growing.

No matter where you are or what you're doing, I want our dynamic to be swimming in your veins. Talking to you. Making your chest heave and your veins pulse as it journeys through your blood stream, pumping and pumping through your veins, resulting in the beating of your heart.

My kinks: Watersports, Vampirism (Hematolagnia - Blood) psychological Dominance, fiscal Domination, Goth, taboo, skull-fucking, anal, CNC, rape play, bimbofication, food control, body modification, behaviour modification, body writing, deepthroat, TPE, chains, leather, outfits, DP (with dildos, etc), toys, edging, , tasks.

Hard limits: Poly and scat.

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