I am looking for someone who enjoys great conversation, wants to explore their submission with me, and maybe be a muse and/or model for my writing and photography. I have been a Dom since I was 16, wrote a novel (and erotica, look at my pinned post), and love photography. I want to find someone who wants to explore those passions with me, as I get to explore yours with you.

I don't care how experienced or new you are, but you need to be emotionally mature and willing to communication, even if that is a hard conversation. You are someone who likes to show off and be admired, for your brains and your body. You want to mix discussions of your day with with flirting and turning each other on. We both have lives/other partners and can't be together as much as we like, but we want to keep the fun going through pictures, messages, calls, and all those fun things.

And speaking of pictures, you are going to need to verify sometime during the first day we start talking. This isn't optional. Attraction has to be there for both of us, and that is a lot more than just some boring stats.

Please be local to the Portland, OR area (I am in Beaverton) or visit periodically. I hate that I need to spell this out, but you need to be single or ethically non monogamous in some way, and happy to verify when I ask.

Over the years I have learned I don't have a single fixed style. I love tailoring the experience to what you need. I am capable of being very gentle, or incredibly rough; and am pretty well versed in a wide array of kinks. I can be a Soft Dom, a Pleasure Dom, a Sadist, etc. It is about crafting the experience you need as a sub, and making sure we both have fun. I don't have many hard limits (most bodily fluids, scat, etc), and soft limits we can work out as we get to know each other. Some of the things I enjoy include impact play (I give a great spanking if I do say so myself), and giving orders and tasks, degrading, anal (giving), body writing, CNC, writing erotic vignettes to turn you on, choosing your clothing, and so much more!

But none of those things are mandatory, we will figure out what works best for the both of us, together.

I am 5' 10", blue eyes, pudgy (just being honest), and have hair that is half brown and half silver. I am poly, married, mildly disabled, and deeply nerdy (I am an engineer amongst other things). I don't read as much as I like (but I want to know everything about what you are enjoying), listen to a lot of podcasts, watch too much tv, and love the oxford comma.

Put the name of your favorite song in the title, so I know you read this. I expect you to be willing to verify within the first 48 hours, and am happy to do the same. Let's just get that out of the way as soon as we can, shall we?

Remember when I said I write? Here is a story of mine. Perhaps it will inspire you a little...