I'll put all the main things here as a full cards on the table approach to find a fun kinky counterpart for this new year

Ultimately I'm a varied Kinkster most often a Primal Daddy Dom in bed, definitely Hedonistic from my perspective and somewhat Sadistic in rough play from others perspective. I'm seeking regular fun ongoing kinky chemistry/vibe, D/s FwB/FB/Play Partner to keep, to have, for longer term fun

I'm just single, busy in life, not swiping the Apps or seeing anyone currently; I prefer local single for the convenience to see often.. Having a high sex drive, I want an insatiable and energetic woman with who I have chemistry with for this setup. I like to spend few hours playing, going multiple times; I'm of the mindset, if we don't have chemistry then I don't want to play, if we do vibe then I don't want to stop.. I go repeatedly until exhaustion so when I say I'm looking for an equally high libido women, I definitely mean it.. I've always been like this, but being older now sometimes need a short recovery time in between especially after the 3rd or 4th time. I believe in reciprocation in bed so it's definitely about us both getting off. We need to enjoy the same play

I'm 36, 6ft, Brown man, tattooed, shaved head with a beard, a beefier use to workout dadbod currently, well groomed, big on hygiene, selfcare, mature man seeking good match in bed; I want someone I mesh with for something fun in order to sustain a chill situation for consistently good and kinkier sex. I'm into lot of stuff but not necessarily chasing all my kink fulfillment, I don't think true perfect match ups exist but I feel many great kinky counterparts are out there

I can host and prefer to. I live by myself in North Burnaby, Brentwood area by the Mall/Skytrain. I prefer later in the afternoons, evenings, nights/overnight, given that I'm kept busy Monday to Friday business hours so best if you have similar schedule, free nights/weekends with the ability and desire for spending few hours playing enjoying eachother frequently, ideally a keep in our lives rather than always be searching for someone, that's not my style.. as I've gotten older, one off hookups don't satiate me the same way. It's not the same as when I was younger. I look for chemistry before jumping into anything. In play, I like to pour a few drinks and/or have some weed and make an evening of it.

It's a new year and after many years of not logging into my FetLife profile, I'm now giving it another go, albeit difficult to search and know who's actively using, so I'm putting out posts in some groups there while leaving on here in Reddit too. Maybe there's someone to connect with who's local to my area, in metro Vancouver and in a similar headspace? Reddit Profile has my FetLife link if you're on there as well..

I don't like to do prolonged texting and not into online stuff. Let's meet socially somewhere public with no expectations of play, see if we click then decide after that to get together in private for more or not. As a man I don't jump into bed with any willing woman so as a woman I don't expect you to. Attractive and same kinks isn't enough for me, I need to feel some energy/vibe otherwise I know it won't be that fun

NOTE: I'm not into couples or men. Only 3somes I've had were 2 women, they were alright but I prefer one-on-one play. I've been to orgies as a single guy in my 20s and was not moved to join the play. I've had bad experience of 'open poly' couples who weren't really so it never panned out with the female half because it turned out there's always insecurities with the men who say they are open to have women join and separately see women but when time came for the woman to excercise the open option the guy was uncomfortable so I prefer to steer clear of poly people, I'd much rather you be single/not in a relationship. I've had enough partners and experiences in life to know what I like and don't, I definitely prefer an experienced kinky woman to truly enjoy myself. Younger or Older is fine, if there's mutual attraction and interest for something then that's all that matters. TBH, not opposed to a relationship but that's not why I'm here. not looking for dating per say.

I'm kinky, I wouldn't say I'm in the lifestyle or in the kink community. I don’t need to tell everyone around me how kinky I am and all the stuff I do or have done or list all my fetishes. I'm a private person and value my privacy. I've put it out here on Reddit and on FetLife in an effort to find a fun normal kinkier/sub-leaning in bed woman to mesh with IRL

I never reply to generic convo starters from empty profiles when someone doesn't give me basics on them especially given the detailed posts I do. I'm not thirsty, I won't bring any random person over to my place. I prefer to meet first socially to vet eachother.. more if we feel mutual interest..