Hi there :)

I am a 43 year old nurturing dominant man who is looking for someone who wants what I want: a passionate connection with someone who I genuinely like

About me (vanilla): I am kind, caring, intelligent, goofy, and thoughtful. I'm hilarous, trust me. I'm an extrovert that highly values authenticity so I cherish quality time with those close to me and find happiness in the simple pleasures of life. I grew up playing sports, like being active. My perfect day is probably spent in the woods well out of cell phone range but I'm by no means a luddite. Sometimes I lie in bed late on a Saturday morning and read. I do the crossword every day. I throw out litter I find on the street not because an environmentalist I just don't like it being there. I think doing the right thing is important.

Importantly, I'm reasonably successful and want someone who I can spoil.

While I'm in Chicago, I don't want to limit my search to the area. If we click and decide we want to meet, I will find a way for it to happen regardless of your location. Obviously, this works best if time zones work in our favor (sorry Australia)

About you: I think it's important that we both like each other's personalities and find each other attractive, so I'd rather exchange photos early on once we've confirmed the former. Your age matters a lot less than your personality and brain. You also love fitness and the outdoors. You did not vote for Trump.

About us (kink starts here): I identify as a primal pleasure dom and don't get a lot out of extreme pain or degradation. That doesn’t mean I’m a pushover. I think these sorts of things are best saved for an actual conversation so I won't go into too many details but will promise that when it's time, I will go first in telling you what I like and don't like.

If you're looking for something like this, I would love to hear from you.