Hello!

I am a 22yo guy from Germany, who loves music, cooking and playing video games. I’m looking for someone who’s sexuality I will be allowed to control, since I am very into control and the exchange of power in sexual settings. Because control can be expressed in different ways, there are a lot of things I am into and kinks we could try out.

What I mean by “sexual control” is that I get complete “ownership” or control over your sexual pleasure and release. You will not be allowed to have sex, masturbate or orgasm without my permission. At the same time, when I ask you to masturbate or orgasm for me, I expect you to do as I demand. If you want to, I even get to tell you what to get off to, or we could also extend my control into other aspects of your life. I just want you to retain a bit of your independence and am not looking for someone who wants me to control every single decision they take. Micromanaging one life is already hard enough…

What I’m looking for in a partner: I’m looking for a partner around my age. I’d prefer someone from 18-26, but if you’re older and still think we could fit together, shoot your shot, and maybe we’ll work out. Anyone >40 doesn’t need to try though, sorry. Same for anyone trans - I love you gals, but I’m not looking for you right now.

You should be willing to completely hand over your sexuality and pleasure to me, so that I can control every aspect of it. I would prefer masochists, but if you can’t stand pain, it’s no dealbreaker for me. I don’t care about your looks, your weight, ethnicity or anything. I will also not be demanding any pictures, as that is your choice, but just like any other man, of course I'd be happy to receive them.

What I expect from our chat: When we are chatting, I expect total honesty, and you will receive the same from me. Relationships, especially ones with consensual control, are built on trust, and I want us to trust each other. If I demand you to orgasm, or deny you one and you don’t manage to follow my request, I’d much rather have you tell me the truth so we could talk about it than have you lying and feeling uncomfortable and guilty. Of course I would also want to establish a safe word which we could use when one of us is uncomfortable or when it’s a terrible timing.

I’d also want you to be respectful, and I will treat you respectfully. Every interaction between us should be consensual, and if somebody accidentally crosses that line they should apologize. Should I ever make you uncomfortable, tell me, I care for you. If you want me to name-call or degrade you, I can do that, but I want explicit consent beforehand, and I expect you to ask for consent as well.

While a lot of our interactions will be sexual in nature, I would also love to be able to have normal conversations with you and for our “relationship” to be more long term than just one or two texts. If you ever want to stop or take a break, you can tell me and I will respect your demands.

Life is busy, so we are probably both not able to chat every single day, and I’m not expecting you to do that. But I’d like if we chatted at least once a week, so I know that nothing happened and we’re both still comfortable with this.

My limits: My hard limits are “the three ‘Fs’”: I don’t like furries, feces or feet. If these are your kinks, you do you, but they’re not for me. Most other kinks I believe I’m at least open to, and if they’re something you enjoy, feel free to ask me about them, I might enjoy them as well.

For now, I’d like for this to just be online. Depending on how this develops, we could do other things in the future, like having calls, actually meeting up or me controlling you through remote vibrators, but that’s only if we really hit it off and for the far future, we have to get to know each other first.

If you’re interested, shoot me a dm with your age, name (and/ or name you want to be addressed with), general location (like country or state), what you’re hoping to get out of this and what your limits are/ what you wouldn’t want to happen. Please don’t just write “Hey, I’m interested” but put in a little bit of effort. Something like “Hi, I’m x from x, x years old and would really love to give you control of my orgasms. I don’t want you to punish me with pain though” would already be enough, although a bit more about your general interests and your kinks would be greatly appreciated.

If you’re interested, dm me. I’d love to meet and get to know you.