Hey, I’m a 28-year-old guy based in NY. I’m fit (regular at the gym), a full-time student, and someone who enjoys exploring unique dynamics and connections. I’m here to be completely honest about what I’m looking for, even if it’s a bit unconventional.

To put it plainly, I’m in a committed relationship, but there’s a side of me that’s looking for a little more. My girlfriend isn’t interested in some of the things I’m into, and while I respect that, I can’t help but crave an outlet for those desires. I know this might not sit well with everyone, but for the right person who understands discretion, this could be an exciting and fulfilling connection.

What I’m looking for is a woman who’s comfortable with keeping things private and enjoys taking charge in a playful, sexy way. I’m really into JOI (jerk off instruction), and I love the idea of letting someone else set the pace and take control. Whether it’s through teasing, guiding, or building up the tension with a few well-placed words, I’m all about giving you the reins. There’s something deeply exciting about the back-and-forth exchange, the anticipation, and the slow build-up to a big finish.

Let me tell you a bit more about me. I’m clean, DDF, and value respect and boundaries. While I’m here looking to explore something outside my relationship, I still believe in being respectful and ensuring that any connection I make is mutually enjoyable. I’m a pretty laid-back guy who loves to laugh, enjoys good conversation, and takes care of himself physically and mentally. I think of myself as open-minded and adventurous, someone who’s always down to try new things and see where they lead.

When it comes to JOI, what really gets me is the creativity and energy the other person brings. It’s not just about the act itself—it’s about the connection and chemistry that make it special. Whether you prefer a slow and teasing approach or something more assertive and direct, I’m here for it. I’m open to exploring different styles and dynamics and letting you guide the experience in a way that works best for you.

Discretion is absolutely essential for me. I’m not looking to blow up anyone’s life, least of all my own, so if you’re in a similar situation or just prefer to keep things private, we’ll get along just fine. I’m not here to judge or complicate things—just to find a like-minded person who’s looking for something fun and exciting without any strings attached.

Beyond JOI, I’m open to exploring other dynamics and kinks if there’s mutual interest. I find that communication and trust are key to making anything like this work, so I’m always happy to talk and get a sense of what you’re looking for as well. Whether you’re experienced or completely new to this, I’m patient, open, and willing to take things at whatever pace feels right.

If this sounds like something you’d be interested in, feel free to reach out. Let’s start with a conversation and see if we vibe. I’m happy to answer any questions, share more about myself, and learn more about you and what you’re looking for. Whether we’re swapping messages or diving into something more creative, I’m confident we can create something exciting and fulfilling together.

Thanks for taking the time to read this. I know it’s a bit lengthy for a post like this, but I wanted to be as clear and upfront as possible about who I am and what I’m looking for. If you’ve made it this far and you’re intrigued, don’t hesitate to send me a DM. Let’s chat, see where it goes, and maybe create something unforgettable.