My name translated from Dutch/Nederlands literally means old-fashioned. I didn't pick that name for nothing. I'm quite conservative when it comes to sex. I like to talk about the concept of sex, of arousal, of experiences and situations, relationships or just plain sex.

I'm very old-fashioned, in many ways I'm more vanilla than vanilla I think. I think sex is mainly for him, for his arousal and pleasure and I think it's unmanly for a man to focus on the woman's orgasm. I think my views on that have partly developed due to my upbringing, partly because I'm not sensitive at all down there. I can't orgasm through what he does and I don't want to try either, that only frustrated me and distracts me.

I like to have sex without all the bells and whistles and to be passive during sex. I think men naturally have the active role and women the passive role. We don't have a lot of foreplay (usually none at all) and our sex usually consists of a few minutes of missionary. I think you shouldn't switch positions during sex and generally that isn't needed anyway since you're done within a few minutes.

We do it often though. That used to be a sort of free-use situation (although always in the bedroom in that position) but now we have a daily routine in which we do it just before he goes to bed. It's monotonous, it's simple and that's great. I think a routine is a sign of a great relationship. You prevent a lot of frustration with that and therefore a lot of fights. A happy man is easily achieved when he can orgasm often.

It's not out of misogyny or anything like that. I'm just lazy and I also think that he needs me is empowering. It helps to maintain a relationship and we do it this way since it's easier for me to do it when I'm not in the mood. I also think it's more feminine to do it this way.

A bit about me: I'm 25 years old, live in the Netherlands with my boyfriend of 3,5 years. I'm not looking for an RP, meeting or anything like that, just a conversation. For that it helps that I know that you've actually read my post ans react on it as that is a great way to start the conversation and makes it a lot easier. I can talk in Dutch or English but prefer Dutch. Please send me a chat request, I don't read DMs.