So my wife and I have hmm’ed and ha’ed about this for ages now. We are talking more and more about it, and I think we really have a feel for what each other is looking for out of this kind of arrangement.

What She wants She’s just plain old attracted to charming black men and I’d like to make it happen for her. Dick pics aren’t what will be appealing for her at first. She is smart and classy and successful, so try and imagine what a high-caliber woman would be looking for in a casual sexual relationship. Having only ever been with each other, she’s looking to capture some of that excitement we all used to have when we were younger. That feeling of ‘no we shouldn’t... but we both want to... how far should we go.... etc’. Kind of that coy, teasing, tension building and lusty feeling.

You must be tall, gentlemanly and intelligent. Age range of 35-45 is ideal, but willing to consider anybody charming. Funny helps, and successful helps too. She’d prefer somebody who doesn’t do this all the time... ideally your first time being a third.

What He wants I’m looking for a guy I can be comfortable pursuing this with for her. Things will start online and we’ll have to take it one step at a time. What I need is to find a guy who really knows how to talk to a woman and make her feel sexy, and want to pursue something new and exciting. I can’t make this fantasy a reality on my own, I need the right guy to help make it happen. What excites me about the whole thing is 1) a little bit of the giving up control aspect 2) a sort of feeling like I’m still having to chase and win her for myself 3) just the taboo of my girl being so wild. Among many other things.

What you should want To progressively get closer with a level headed, sane, mature couple trying to do this intelligently. You should enjoy flirting and tension building, and be ok with all the stuff you can imagine comes with a couple doing this for the first time. I should say that I can’t say exactly when it would go down, or how much ‘courting’ will be involved.

What to do Please contact me if you think you would be a good fit. Sincerely hoping to work something out. She means the world to me, so I will be screening you before chatting with her. If you act like a gentleman, I’ll send you a few pics and we can see if there’s a good fit likely to happen.