Hey there. Demisexual, gentle dom here.

For reasons that neither myself nor my therapist understand, I need anal sex in my life. Even more so, like some kind of essential spiritual nutrient, I need a partner who wants and enjoys taking it up the butt. Locking eyes with someone I'm fucking a bit more conventionally, and they suggest "hey, want to fuck my ass?". Heaven. Bliss. Fulfillment. In that moment, it's like my soul leaves my body, straight into somebody's rectum.

It's kind of weird, but I guess kink be like that.

I do not, at this time, have this person in my life. Hookups don't hit the same way, nor, being demisexual, do I feel right engaging in them. So, I'm looking for a worthwhile partner to get to know, to get comfortable with, to have some great, genuine, platonic moments with, and to occasionally sodomize.

Why should you be my partner in sin? A bit about me:

• I am white, 5'11, lightly beardy and (I'm told) other pleasant features, slender but I've clearly seen the inside of a gym. I’m a very successful professional, of the 9-5 sort.
• I am married and ethically non-monogamous. My spouse is not involved, but aware of proceedings. Butt stuff is just not for her, and so she encourages me to find holes more accommodating.
• I'm looking for hot dates and fun times, beyond any sexual dynamics. Fucking asses is great and all, but it's not the only nutrient I need. As a demi, I'm really only comfortable banging someone I genuinely like and care about, and that needs its own time to cultivate!
• I value connection and caring, and I am told that I have a high EQ to make it work. I'm interested only in mid- to long-term.
• I am intensely fond of caregiving, fawning, doting, gifts, giving praise, and just generally being supportive for everyone in my life, be it platonic friends or otherwise. I particularly enjoy it in a meaningfully connected sexual dynamic, of course, but I endeavor to be kind and giving to everyone in my life.
• I'm big on self-improvement, empowerment, and encouragement. Whatever your particular struggles in life are, I'd like to hear them, and I'd like to see you to overcome them.
• I enjoy hedonism, and basking in life's pleasures. Sex, obviously, but food, beauty, and so on. I enjoy sharing that with someone special; I want you to indulge yourself, your pleasures and your joys. What makes you happy?
• I tend towards nerdy inclinations, interests, and hobbies. I get along best with those who share those in some degree.
• I will always respect your time and priorities in life.
• Obviously, I'd prefer something local; I'm decently well endowed, but fucking somebody a few states, countries, or continents away is a greater distance than I can pull off. That said, if there's someone out there who sees this post and, for some reason, finds themselves wondering where I've been all their life... well, if that spark really is there, that's what airline miles are for. :)

And a bit more on my kink stuff:

• Technically, I'm a switch, though I'm mostly interested in exercising my dom side here. That said, well, if you also enjoy putting stuff into other people's butts, mine would certainly be accommodating.
• I enjoy being dominant, but in a gentle fashion; more control, direction, and teasing. I'm big on praise and appreciation, and I don't like degradation, humiliation, pain, or anything in that vein.
• Obviously, I'm looking for a buttslut here, but any level of experience, including none, is acceptable. I'm happy to help you with training, if need be, and I am determined to make putting my dick in your butt (among other things) something you crave.
• Some other kinks include spanking, toys, female masturbation, overstimulation and forced orgasms, begging and pleading (for cum, especially), spanking, light bondage, enthusiasm, and happy, satisfied partners.
• I like getting inside your dirty head. A game that I'm fond of with my subs is that I'd like to be informed any time they get off, have a new fantasy they came up with, or when they find porn or erotica they particularly like. I want to know and keep in tune with what makes your bits tingle and drip.

If this sounds like your sort of thing, drop me a reddit PM. Tell me much about yourself, what you appreciate about the things that I have offered, and what else you might hope to get out of our time together. You know how to please me; tell me what I can do for you!