I'll start with some self-awareness: I'm awful at true "casual" dating. I can't swipe on someone on an app based on looks alone, go out after maybe two or three sentences of superficial texting, and "hope for the best" that we click upon meeting in person. Even if we do, I can't switch the gear to being attracted to the person as an individual that fast. One-night stands aren't for me, and I'm not someone who can at all relate to people who are able to show up, have no-strings sex with a complete stranger, get dressed, and leave, never to speak again.

I need that authentic connection with someone, to know that we value the same things, both in life and in how we treat other people, whether in long-term relationships or on a first date that has no guaranteed prospect of leading to a second. I need to be able to hold an intellectual, give-and-take thought-provoking conversation with her, know what she's passionate about and what makes her tick. I prioritize genuine affection and intimacy with all partners, no matter how emotionally invested the arrangement itself is. I miss having that with someone, and I'm hoping to find a woman here who misses that, too.

We all have physical needs, and I'm looking for a partner who is trying to scratch the same itches, who seeks a concurrent and symbiotic physical and emotional connection like I do. I want someone who pushes my boundaries both intellectually and sexually, but never beyond my comfort zone, and I want someone who craves that same approach in return. Even though I'm looking for something emotionally platonic, I still want to give us each the chance to grow, individually and together. A perfect night to me is cuddling up together on the couch or in bed, lights off or dimly lit, watching a show, movie, or documentary and just talking to each other at the same time. If our chemistry is palpable enough, I'd love to see where that takes us, with the opportunity to continue where we left off after we're done with the physical, and just continue in that cycle until we're both fulfilled. Hopefully we could make this a recurring arrangement, but I'm open to a one-off as long as it includes the depth I've alluded to here.

I'm white, 5'9", single, kink-friendly, and DDF with recent results. I live alone in DC proper and don't have a car, so I'd be looking to host. I'm seeking women age 21 , single or consenting ENM, child-free, and also DDF (with recent results of her own). Preference for age 25 and on some sort of birth control. I'm not interested in leaving the Reddit platform before meeting, and I'm willing to exchange sfw face pics here after some preliminary chatting. Looking forward to hearing from you!