I'm looking for a conversation (online, not for meeting or anything like that, also no RP) about sex. Preferably in Dutch but English is also fine. I think sex and arousal are interesting themes and I like to talk about it in a chat.

My view on sex is that is should be male focused, so on his orgasm. I have a relatively low libido and I can't orgasm from anything what a man does so sex for me is very penetration focused. I don't want it to take forever and a lot of fluff attached, I want it to be straight forward

My mother already told me "make sure he never gets frustrated, a good wife takes care of that, then men are very easy to handle". I try to follow that principle within a relationship, but in a way that fits us both. If I'm not in the mood (which is usually the case) I want him to do the work. I don't mind having sex with him but the compromise is that he doesn't mind that I'm not that into it and not move with him and he finishes not too long after that in me. Then it isn't such a burden for me and can still be fun. Luckily my boyfriend doesn't mind that, nor most of my exes.

I think relationships in general, where there is often a difference in libido and how much you want sex, can benefit from keeping sex simple and to the point. Solving the need in a quick and efficient way that still involves you together instead of him solving it alone by watching other women.

I'd like to talk about that, about your preferences and experiences and mine. It helps if you have similar preferences or experiences. I don't mind if you get aroused over the conversation, I actually like that, just don't expect it to be the same for me. A bit about me: I'm 25 years old, have a boyfriend who knows I talk here, just not the details. I live in the Netherlands and I like to chat. See you there!