Let me be clear up front I am looking for a long term serious relationship. After several years of putting it off for a whole host of reasons I’ll allude to later on I think it’s something I finally want/ want to work towards. There are certain things I need in a partner/ relationship in order for me to be fulfilled/ stay sane and I’m hoping you’ll be on the same page.

About me: physically I’m 6ft about 250lbs brown hair blue eyes. People have told me I look like a “fat Matt Damon” 😂. I am currently losing weight to join the military in the next year/ year and a half. Personally/ politically I am conservative. I believe in stability, order, and philosophically believe in do no harm as a principle. I have a graduate level education though over the last few years I’ve worked a low skilled job simply because I’ve had some stressful/ just unpleasant corporate jobs right out of school and my attitude is why be stressed out when it’s not something I want to do ie the military. I am self sufficient and financially stable however and my job pays the bills and allows me to travel. I can promise you I will never be a financial burden to you/ ask you for money however my “lack of ambition” in the job I’m choosing to do right now has been a problem with previous girlfriends so if my under employment embarrasses you then we won’t work. A persons character, intellect, and physical/ sexual attractiveness should be enough to make a relationship work in my opinion. If you think that’s childish or naive again we won’t work.

I was raised in a conservative Christian environment. While I no longer consider myself a Christian (at least not a devout one) I believe growing up in such an environment was a net positive as it gave me an example of what a loving and stable environment should look like as well as gave me a good moral foundation. I don’t mind Christianity/ church or being a part of that environment but again no longer consider myself a sincere believer. This has perhaps been one of the biggest obstacles to finding a partner. Finding a woman who is conservative/ normal; a “cultural Christian” as Richard Dawkins would say, but is also no longer a sincere believer is difficult but if that’s you hmu.

My interests include politics, history, political history lol, reading, art, cooking, music and cinema. I’m hoping once we get into the comfortable/ routine phase of our relationship our nights would look like us getting together at the end of the day (or at least a few times a week schedule permitting) cooking a meal over stories about our day and dark humor/ jokes followed by a movie. I’ve always been more of a stay in type person and looking for the same and also that you have similar interests.

As far as sex goes: I am a VERY sexual person and always have been (one reason I’m no longer religious). I see sex as being just as much about utility as intimacy. I enjoy porn and though my kink list is not particularly extensive or unconventional; as long as someone’s kink was one that involved CONSENTING ADULTS, I wouldn’t judge it. I would also like to mention that I ideally would like to become swingers once we become comfortable/ secure in our relationship. I’m looking for a woman with a similar attitude.

What I’m looking for in a partner: I’m looking for someone 18-25, a biological female with no kids, as well as a similar upbringing and values system. I do believe physical attraction is important but honestly if you match the other criteria in this post I’m not going to be too picky though if you are overweight while that won’t be a deal breaker I’d like you to have a plan to lose it like I do. Also, kindness and respect in a partner are also very important to me.

As far as kids go I don’t plan on having them for at least another six to eight years. My primary purpose in writing this post is to find a partner not a coparent. While I very much do want to have kids one day I believe in order to raise children properly the parents must have a solid and separate relationship and that’s why I’m looking for. That’s the primary reason im looking for a younger woman and why I’m not posting in any breeding subs.

If this post interests you and you think we may be compatible please respond with age, location (US, Canada & UK only), favorite painter, and favorite pornstar. If you do not respond with these four items I will reject your chat. If you go several days without responding or I don’t think you’re contributing to the conversation sufficiently I will block you. I’m not trying to mean or pushy I just get a lot of “heys” and am not going to spend my time on someone I don’t believe is serious. I look forward to hearing from you.