Thanks for clicking! I’ve tried this a couple times now and haven’t met anyone I’ve really clicked with. It’s been a lot of sellers and obvious men. I really am looking for a friend first, hopefully something long term - and the sexy stuff is important to me but I’m not trying to “have fun” right away or move to your OF.

I have been separated from my wife of almost 25 years for a few months. I’m now living in the guest room while we figure out the logistics of divorce. I don’t think I’m ready for serious dating yet, especially while things are still weird at home, but I am really hoping to meet someone I connect with online - someone that I can can talk to about our days or be silly with, but who is also up for talking about our kinks, or flirting and sexting and maybe trading sexy pics. An ongoing online FWB that is OK with helping me rebuild my confidence here as I start over in life… and if we have a connection online, hopefully we can talk about meeting up and you can help me break my very, VERY long dry spell!

I am 45, and live in Western NY (near Rochester). I am an IT/tech guy. I am a gamer - board games, video games, RPG’s, I love it all. I recently replayed the Mass Effect trilogy and that might be my favorite video game series ever. With the last expansion, I started playing Final Fantasy 14 again, and I am enjoying it! I’m always looking for the next great game to try, though. I like watching movies, and I do collect some stuff. I would absolutely describe myself as a huge nerd! I like to think I’m silly, I love to joke around and make people laugh. Physically, I won’t lie - I definitely have a dad bod, but I have been making some life changes and I am down 50 lbs already this year!

As far as sexy stuff, I believe in ethical non-monogamy (swinging/open relationships). I really like Hotwife/slutwife/wife sharing, whatever you call it when there’s no humiliation involved. I think a partner who just gets so horny they can’t control themselves is the fucking sexiest thing, especially afterwards when she comes home and tells me all about it or (even better) has video of it we can watch as I reclaim. I definitely don’t want any more babies IRL (I’m snipped), but I do think pregnancy, breeding and creampies are super hot. Taboo subjects are very, very sexy. Historically, I’m not super into BDSM or dom/sub stuff, but it definitely might be fun to explore some of the more extreme, kinky things I’ve only read about with someone who is really into it!

If you’re under 30 I would definitely think we might have a hard time finding common ground, but I don’t really have a “type”, personality and connection is way more important to me.

If you’ve made it this far and are interested, send me a message and let’s talk for a while, see if we have any chemistry. Your picture gets mine!