As my title suggests I'm hoping to find a true partner for a long term relationship. With that being said, if you think we'd get along well together but want something more on the casual side, or to explore kink, with intimacy and affection feel free to reach out as well. I will be prioritizing those looking for a long term relationship however. Please note, that I am only looking for those in Chicago, or those who will be moving to Chicago soon. I am not looking for anything online at this time. For those still interested let me tell you a bit about who I am.

Generally speaking I'm a very level headed and relaxed individual. I like to take my time to think things through, and while ruled by logic, I'm in touch with not just my emotions but those of others as well. (Even if my face doesn't exactly go about showing how I'm feeling at any given time). I'm also very affectionate(but actually though), caring, and kind and I generally come off as the quiet reserved type. Though that reservedness goes away for close friends, and especially with a partner, leaving a talkative goof who just wants to enjoy good company. When I have that partner that I can open up to I'm quite communicative, vulnerable, supportive, and overall enjoy spending time with my partner. All that I ask for or even want in return is for genuine reciprocation.

Moving on to interests, mine decidedly fall more into the nerdy side of things. I am a very avid reader, if I don't have a book in hand I generally have one in ear I'm listening to while going about my day. I primarily read fantasy but I do love science fiction as well. As for other hobbies, I enjoy swimming quite a bit, board and video games, cooking and baking (cinnamon rolls.....), some anime (though animation in general is great), dnd, trying new restaurants, and tea to name a few things.

As for me physically I'm 32, tall, quite pale, moderately attractive, with currently long, dirty blonde colored hair, and a well kept ginger beard. I don't really have a strong preference for my hair so I'm willing to change that for a long term partner. I will happily verify once we've started chatting. Beyond the physical though, I'm a software engineer, liberal, atheist, I can't drive, and am quite kinky(discussed below). As far as religion goes, I'm quite respectful of those who practice any religion, and I am open to dating those who are religious as long as you're alright we me being atheist and aren't on the far end of the religious spectrum.

Finally, when it comes to kinks, I've got quite a few, and chances are I either enjoy what you do or am open to trying yours. That said I obviously do have my limits, but that's what good communication is for. Kinks aside for a second, I know not everyone is that experienced and it is perfectly alright to not be. All I really ask is that you be open to kink and willing to explore. To touch on a bit of specifics I'm a switch, primarily and most experienced as a dom, but happy to play the sub for those who are gentle. If you aren't comfortable switching that's ok too, just know that's an option. I am more than happy to only play one specific role. Though it stands to mention that because I'm less experienced as a sub I am less confident in wanting to only be a sub, though I'm happy to give it a try. Specifics revolving around certain kinks and dynamics can be discussed together, but like I said I like quite a bit.

I think that's about it for now, I'm happy to answer questions and look forward to chatting with any (I don't discriminate) that found this appealing and are looking for something similar. So please reach out, and if you aren't sure on what to say, just send me a brief message about yourself, what you're looking for, and some of your interests and hobbies. Hope you all have a lovely week!