39[F4R] NY (online only) I’m very new to kink and the idea of bdsm… looking for ideas and advice.

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undercover567904 is a female age 39 looking for a redditor in New York

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I’m dating someone new and he’s very into being dominant. I’m into a lot of things he’s suggested, other things not so much…

We both consider ourselves demisexual… I have a lot of sexual trauma in my past, including using sex as self harm… if that provides context.

I worry a lot and feel guilty when I don’t like things. The inadequacy eats at me.

Of course this is all mostly about communicating with my partner, but that’s honestly what this is about,

Because I don’t feel I know myself sexually very well to make a lot of decisions or know what to say and try… and maybe I could gain some insight before trying things that could potentially have me feeling bad.

I think I just need more insight into how everything works and how it feels for others. He’s a really great bf, and is very reassuring and respects me.

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