Short info about me:
I am looking for a LTR companion. I am empathetic, educated, self-improving, and open-minded. Hobby-wise, I am into art (painting), programming, sometimes playing video games, and slowly getting used to and interested in traveling by various means. I have a decent sense of humor (although it's harder to joke in a non-native language) and enjoy light-hearted conversations.
My features are 178 cm (5'10), blue-gray eyes (depending on the lighting), and dark-brown medium-long hair. Ethnically Slavic, I was born in Russia. I have more weight than normal, right now on a strict diet (1800ccal/day) and regular gym visitation. The unusual thing about my body (at least for men) - I have a pear-shape type of fat placement so if that's something you don't like - sorry. But if you like a partner with a fat ass - you will prefer it, although I am in the process of mixing it with muscles. Capable of having robust facial hair and at least not balding yet. Masculine appearance in general.
Obviously, I am free of any relationship.
What I am looking for:
I am open-minded to various ages, as the personality is the main thing that matters, but would prefer things to stay at least in the 8–10-year window of difference. But if you think there is a certain reason why it can be ignored - give it a shot I will hear it out.
More precisely, what I am looking for is that, with the current state of the world and my life, I am not attached to any place. I will not be hard-stuck in any country for at least 5 years, so I am interested in finding the right person and potentially moving with them. Or, if they prefer my current place of living I manage to relocate to on my own (more likely Western Europe) - moving there if things work out. My profession is software engineering, and with time I am getting better at it, so, I should be financially stable in any place in the world, although in some more than in others. So, it's either someone who would be fine with me relocating to them or another digital nomad to have fun around the world and make plans for a future life together.
What I seek in a relationship is a connection with a strong person who I can trust and who will develop trust in me. My social views are pretty progressive, and in general, I am a pro-feminist person. My views on FLR/superiority of women come not only from a kinky side of mine (or at least not only from there; I hope everything else is not a post-hoc rationalization), but also from seeing the world go to shit as a result of the influence of men in global politics combined with seeing how locally in families men having authority ruin it. From my perspective, the best outcome for both partners lies in a female-led relationship. With men having such destructive tendencies, even with me being self-aware about it, the easiest way to achieve harmony is to build the dynamic with women having the last word and having tools to control the situation. It's probably easier said than done, we are all flawed, but with enough self-reflection and willingness to work on it, I think it's possible. So, perhaps I have light ironic-halfserious misandry. Also, I am not attached to gender roles and don't think that the concept of "men's things" and "women's things" should bother people and their choices in their lives.
Long-distance interaction that I imagine is something that starts through chat, develops into calls/ video calls, and involves doing things together that are of mutual interest, that could be perhaps video games or maybe some table-top virtual games, or perhaps watching some film or content together, as of things that come to mind out of possible casual interaction. If things click, then it goes to the initial meeting IRL and see how things go beyond that. I wake up at 6 am of my time, which is 3-4 hours ahead of Europe and 12-14 hours (depending on the coast) ahead of the US. I was able to have a reasonable connection with anyone, just had time flipped for those from the Americas.
Kinks:
As for fetishes - the main preference that will be a dealbreaker for most vanilla people and for some kinksters, but tolerable or even something they genuinely seek in their partner - I am not into vanilla sex with penetrative action from me. I can do it if my partner wants it, but that's something I don't enjoy psychologically. Outside of that, I am interested in gentle/soft/delicate interaction, which is certainly something I wish to give to my partner, as well as submission and love, which come with the trust and respect of that person. But I do often have fantasies about having some "rough time" with myself, as well as various other dom/sub and bondage-related interactions. Roleplay, sensual deprivation, invoking the feeling of helplessness in various ways, feeling as "prey", a large range of restraints, and curiosity towards exploring non-standard relationship variations with various degrees of power exchange, perhaps anal play and other types of stimulation. And for things that have so far not worked for me - I am not into pain play. Slowly, with the right person, if they want, I might try to explore this sphere of kink, I am pretty soft and can try to tolerate the pain, but I certainly have failed to enjoy it so far. I am not into polygamous relationships; I am looking for something monogamous. The same goes for pseudo-poly activities like cuckolding. And I am not into things that are filthy(toilet-related) or bring a risk to health or life. I don't enjoy public play, I prefer to keep these activities private, and not force them on others. Also, I don't drink (I can but don't enjoy it) or do drugs, so using substances isn't something I am into. Outside of the things I discussed there, I am probably up to trying most of the new things, or at least talking about them.
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