Some days I want nothing more than to take care of a lovely lady, to make her feel special and cherished. And then there are other days I crave pinning her to the mattress and using her body however I please. Or finger her under the blankets while we snuggle up and watch her favorite movie.

But I really desire those things with someone who I have a long-term connection with and am excited and intrigued by as a person. I've had success meeting more casual partners here before, so I thought I'd try again.

I'm looking for someone I can cherish and dote on like a princess in public, but use as a fucktoy in private. I am looking to build consistent intimacy with someone, not have a one-and-done hookup.

Kink wise, I am primarily into the mental side of kink. I do not enjoy using physical force to "make" someone to do things nor do I particularly enjoy super rough sex. What really captivates me is when someone is eager to please me and doesn't need to be forced or threatened with punishment to do something. Even something they hate. Watching someone squirm and suffer through something they hate, just to prove their devotion to me, is an exquisite pleasure.

My ideal match is charming, witty, eager to please, a direct communicator, and enjoys dark humor. I want someone I can care for, play with, and connect with but who doesn't need me every second of every day. I'm polyamorous and live with a partner. We date separately and I place a high value on my own autonomy. I'm only interested in partners who share similar values. Preference for those ages 25-35 and located in DC or nearby suburbs, but I'm willing to be somewhat flexible if the rest of the match is very good.

If you like tall bearded guys with progressive values who are affable, sweet, nerdy as fuck, curious, and much kinkier than they seem at a glance, we may be a good match. In my free time, you can usually find me playing board games, cooking, or at a kink munch. There is a semi-NSFW pic in my profile you can check out if you're interested.

If this catches your interest, I'd love to hear from you. Things I'd love to know:

• Age and location

• Relationship status

• Prior experience with kink and non-monogamy