I've been a dom for nineteen years and have experience in most kinks (from vanilla to the extreme to session based to lifestyle). My wife (sub, cuckquean*) and I are in a tpe relationship. We have no children, nor do we have any other partners, it's just the two of us.

As I get older, I feel like I'm becoming more paternal, but kids just aren't something I'm looking for (nor is my wife). Still, I like the idea of having that dynamic with someone - the level of care, support, and respect / power structure; I'd like to find someone that would be interested in a d/s style relationship that would satisfy that want. To be very upfront, while I do have a lot of experience as a dom, I don't have much familiarity with DDLG and I'm not sure that what I'm looking qualifies as DDLG exactly (I may be wrong); nonetheless, if that's your interest, we can definitely build on that.

As mentioned in the title, my house is a cozy one. We don't really go out, we don't drink, we're laid back and quiet. My wife sews and bakes; I read and study. We spend most of our time watching TV, talking, and having sex (lots of sex, wholesome but horny might be a good way to describe things).

As for the specifics, that's harder since it really depends on you and how things fit. Do you want a sort of tpe setup or something more disciplined? Do you like more vanilla or more extreme kinks (light hair pulling or slapped across the face and choked during CNC play?). Are you into free use or more structured sexual stuff? Are you looking for love and praise that's missing from your life or structure and discipline (maybe both)? Do you like to serve? Slavery? Being a pet? Are you bratty or obedient? Are you interested in one on one time, hanging out together as some sort of family unit, to full on getting fucked on the couch while we all watch TV together and eat cookies?

You might not have the answer to all of these questions or maybe you do and you have the answers to many more I didn't ask. If you have loads of experience with BDSM style things, wonderful; if you're entirely new to this, that's fine too and we can build and work together. It isn't where you're starting from, but where you want to go and what works for both of us.

I can say that I'm selective, not picky, but I am looking for someone that feels right and fits well into my life. As such, please tell me about you, what you're looking for, what you like and don't like - ask questions, raise concerns. I'll definitely be doing the same. This isn't looking for a high intensity right now tonight type of thing, but a slow burn with build up (because of that, this post may be up for a while, so as long as it is, I'm very interested in talking to you).

I feel like I want to say more, but I'm going to leave this open since I think it's more about talking to each other than sifting through a post and looking for the right words.

Finally, just some basic info. I'm tall, white, long haired, athletic to slim build, hairy chest, occasional beard. My wife is chubby, Asian, amazing ass, short, dark haired. We live in Beaver County. I'm not looking for a one time thing. This is seeking someone interested in person, so if you're far away or looking for online only, that won't work for me. I do have a stomach disorder (ulcerative colitis), I'm on meds for it, but it occasionally makes going out unpleasant and is something I like to make people aware of. And, last, but not least, were neurodivergent friendly, my wife is autistic and I'm...well, I'm not sure what I am, but I've always been eccentric and done my own thing.

*Someone asked, so if you're not familiar with this term it is a wife that likes when her husband has other partners; the female version of a cuckold. It isn't a wife that sleeps with other men. That is, my wife likes when I'm with women that aren't her.