Ok. So i am going to be honest here. This post is gonna be a pretty long one. Please stay with me until the end. I promise it's worth it. You could see this as venting my heart. Or me expressing my desires. In the hopes of finding that special someone. Yeah i know. Silly random guy on the internet spilling his heart out. You can laugh. And yes i do realize that this might be a bit of a different topic than everyone else's. I just wanna get my point across. It's a big sea. And there are a lot of bad fish out there.

Part 1: Me

Hi Im SilverShadeLynx(obviously not my real name) I am a 30 year old guy living in The Netherlands. I am about 1.85m or 6.07ft tall. I am a non smoker. I don't do drugs. I do however enjoy drinking a beer or two on a sunny afternoon. Nothing special. I am employed by the dutch railroad company. A job that comes with great responsibility. And one that i take great pride in.

I am by no means a complicated person. Well... maybe a little. In my spare time i prefer to stay active. I love the outdoors. Hiking. Biking. Swimming. You name it. One of my big passions in life is cooking. Man. I could spend all day long inside the kitchen. Trying out all kinds of different recipes. Yes I do have a bit of a geeky side. The video games. The tv shows. Some anime. Hey. Boys will be boys right. I also enjoy reading a good book. I am a very good listener. I always try to be there for you when you need someone to talk to or need a shoulder to cry on. Wanna wake me up in the middle of the night because something is bothering you? Sure. Lets talk. Let's cry. Let's hug. Together.

I am a very curious person. And sometimes a bit stubborn. But in a good way. If that makes sense. I am a real big lover of animals. Dogs. Cats. You name it. Especially hamsters.

I like it when people challenge me. Talk to me. I wanna know what makes you tick and what gets you out of bed every morning. I am someone that goes to hell and back to protect the people i love and trust. I like to go out and do stuff. Visit the zoo. Visit theme parks. Go to festivals. But i also have a love for netflix and chill. Lazy sundays hanging on the couch watching the clouds fly by.

Some of my weaknesses?

Well I guess i sometimes care a bit too much. And i can be a bit overprotective. Oh! And sometimes i am that guy that doesnt wany any french fries but then proceeds to steal one or two from your plate. Sorry not sorry.

Some more random facts about me:

I am left handed

I suffer from insomnia

I am a sagittarius

I am that person that always buys a magnet for his fridge when on holiday

Sometimes i like to eat an entire tub of ice cream. Don't judge me

Something you can always wake me up for? Sushi

Part 1.5: What do i stand for?

I consider myself a soft dom. I prefer a style of dominance that is more kind and nurturing. I am communication-oriented, and i like to engage with submissives about their desires and concerns.

You could say honest communication is my primal kink. And sure. That might sound like something straight out of a romance novel. But it's actually a prerequisite for all healthy consensual D/s relationships. Regardless of how the parties partake. I am quick to praise and slow to punish. Now how is this different from just being nice? Because i maintain consensual control over my partner. I like to respond to your wants and needs. Above all else, i can be a doting and loving partner. I wanna let you know how much i love and appreciate you even during BDSM activities like kink and impact play. I do like to focus on leading with an erotic tenderness. Ensuring there is always an avenue for the sub to engage in intimacy.

I do prioritize aftercare. After a session, aftercare is a time to debrief, reconnect and come back to eachother to check in and make sure everyone is feeling okay. You can't practice healthy BDSM without proper aftercare. Its crucial to have conversations about what felt good and wat didn't.

But do not get me wrong. Even tho i can be a softy. I can also be really kinky. I can be your worst nightmare. Try me. hehe. And i won't hesistate to give a bad sub a good punishment.

In my opinion a good D/s relationship should be built upon trust, honesty and mutual respect. Lets face it. We don't know eachother (yet). Respect is something that has to be earned. From both sides. I am just as obligated to earn your respect first. In the end a relationship involves two people. Two real people both with feelings. Two people that both get equal say in things. Boundaries should be established and they should not be crossed. At least not in a bad way. After all exploring is part of the fun. Now that doesn't mean that there shouldn't be any power dynamics between the dom and the sub. They should however be healthy dynamics and not toxic ones. I am a big pro on consensual play. And i do not like to rush things. I have been in this world for about 10 years now. And i have my fair share of experience as a dom. Both online and offline. I do have experience with pets. Brats and to some extent also DD/LG dynamics. For example. A previous sub of mine was a little.

And she loved it when i read her bedtime stories while she drifted away to sleep. Id love to learn more about DD/LG. Do i claim to know everything? Of course not. There are still things that i am learning. But i really do think i have something to offer.

However:

Once trust is established and both of us feel comfortable to explore more. I can be as depraved and dominant as you like.

Part 2: Kinks

Now as for what gets me going

Some other kinks i am really into are:

• petplay
• spanking
• lingerie
• blindfolds
• tying you up
• Denial
• Blowjobs
• Anal.
• Praising you.
• Dirty talk

And yes. I do understand that everyone has different kinks. And it's okay if some kinks don't match. You don't have to like everything i like. I would love to hear what gets you going. What are your kinks?

The real fun lies in epxporing new onews together. Ones that we can bond over.

What can you expect from me?

• Honesty
• Trust
• Respect
• Open communication
• Aftercare
• Someone that is there for you 24/7. And yes i do really mean 24/7. Morning. Noon. Evening and Night
• Willing to learn
• Protection
• Caring
• Control if you want.

I do know that there are a lot of subs that love when their dom takes control over daily needs. Not in a bad way (well maybe a little bit) But more in a helpful way. Making sure they get enough meals and drinks. Making sure they do their homework. Checking in on you.

What do i expect from you?

• Honesty
• Willing to learn
• Communication
• Able to say no if you really don't like something
• Respect
• A healthy dose of disobedience
• Being kinky
• But above all. An open mind.

Part 3: You

I am looking for that special someone. Someone that also craves a connection. Emotionally and physically. Someone that wants to jump into the deep end of the pool with me. New or experienced. Doesn't matter. Let's explore and learn together. My ideal person is someone a bit stubborn. A bit mischievous. Someone that likes to be praised if she does something good. But also maybe enjoys a bit of dirty talk. Someone that can surprise me and isn't afraid to speak out if something is bothering her. But also isn't afraid to push boundaries. A bit disobedient. But in a playful way. Your age doesn't matter. Looks. Size. Height. I don't care. Your kinks? I don't mind if you see yourself as a brat. a pet. or daddys little girl. I don't mind where in the world you live.

As long as there is a connection. I am happy to start this as an online thing. So please. Don't back out if you think you live too far away. I do love for it to eventually blossom into something more but i do understand that this is something that takes time. And i would love for us to explore this more together.

And i can't stress this enough. Don't feel obligated. If it turns out it stays strictly an online thing, then i am okay with that.

Big bonus points if you live in The Netherlands. Germany or Belgium. But don't be afraid to respond if you live in other places.

Yes. I am willing to relocate eventually IF we live far apart and it turns out there is a real connection.

I do want to eventually turn online into offline. Physical intimacy is something i do crave. And being kinky in real life is so much more fulfilling and sweet.

As for pictures. I don't know if it's allowed to post links in here but there are some SFW (safe for work) normal pictures of me pinned on my profile. Have a look. Let me know what you think.

I also value people that read. So If you really did read all of this and you decide to shoot me a message, please let me know what your favorite animal is.

If you read all of this and I didn't scare you away. Thank you. I really hope you. That special someone will read this and contact me. So please do not hesitate to reach out. I am willing to answer all your questions.