I've had partners over the years who've previously wanted to be more enthusiastic about sex but couldn't help but be anxious about partaking. Whether because she's been sexually stifled, grew up being told to fear her sexuality, directed to save herself for marriage, and even if she's ready to overcome any or all of these, she hasn't found a partner who's willing to go at her pace and show her the ropes in a safe and respectful environment. Guys she's found to date have been solely focused on getting in her pants, and it's stopped her from as easily trusting men in general, let alone anyone she's interested in dating or having sex with.

I don't say any of this from a holier-than-thou perspective. It's just made me sad for women how many guys out there fit the stereotype of objectifying partners so much. I'm not special in this sense, but I've always prioritized the connection sex forms between partners and, selfishly, I really treasure the satisfaction my partner feels when she fully trusts me and lets me show her what sex should be about. Picturing how, once we're done, she nuzzles her head into the crook of my neck, takes a deep sigh, and smiles, closes her eyes, and places her hand on my chest and we lay there together, whether in silence to soak in the moment or in laughter and joy, dissecting what we shared, how she felt, and letting her process the beauty and fun that sex should always have...that's what makes meaningful sex worth it, to me.

Maybe you're a virgin who's been holding out for that partner who can make your first time memorable for all the right reasons. Maybe you're out of your first serious relationship, trying to learn more about who you are and explore what sex should feel like, knowing that your ex always put his pleasure first. Or maybe you've had a number of experiences where you just didn't feel confident enough in yourself to let your mind lean into the pleasure your body's feeling, and you're now in a place where you're ready to experience that. Whether you're any of these or not, if this post speaks to you, I would love and be honored to give you that experience. We can stick to a one-time dalliance or explore an ongoing arrangement, so we can learn together what you like, what you don't, and what you've been curious about but have feared would be judged by other partners.

I'm white, 5'9", single, clean, and DDF with recent results. I live alone in DC proper and don't have a car, so I prefer to host. I'm open to anyone age 18 who's single or consenting ENM, is also clean, and is also DDF. Preference goes to age 21 , on some sort of birth control, is child-free, and with recent STI results of her own. I'm willing to meet publicly first, and I'd want to exchange sfw face pics before meeting, after some preliminary chatting — yours gets mine. Looking forward to hearing from you!