So, a kink's emerged recently for me: my partner cheating on me, rejecting me, criticising me a little, and almost high-school cliche bullying me.

With that in mind, I'd really love to explore it with someone else and figure out what I like about it (and, if you happen to enjoy it too it would be interesting to hear your pov!).

It's all hypothetical at this point, and very complex after thinking harder on it - many specifics of what flies and what definitely doesn't, but things like: - him telling me about past sex he's had, different girlfriends he loved most, his favourite memories of sex - watching him jerk off like I'm not there, or ignoring me, but while I'm obviously there (e.g. my face nuzzled right against his cock as he's stroking, or me calling his name or pleading for him to have sex with me while he ignores and keeps jerking off loudly in another room) - him nonchalantly, patronisingly, casually criticising how I am sexually and subtly comparing me to past experiences, but ultimately reassuring me he'll 'lower his standards' for me - lovingly, but also a little humiliatingly(?) - him acting a little frustrated/disappointed at how I'm having sex with him (e.g. "..come on, take it properly.", "[ex's name/random name] wouldn't have done it like this, she'd try a little harder.", "why can't you squirt all over me like I want? You can't even do that..hm.", condescendingly) - having him sit on top of my face, using a toy or jerking off on top of me while he watching porn on his phone (or situations that are similar) - hearing him jerking off loudly in places (bedroom, shower, lounge etc) and asking to please him, but him outright rejecting me first a little bit (e.g. "please, I want to help, let me try.", "no, I don't want you - stop distracting me, you'll get wet just watching anyway."-kinds of things) - him pretending to come back after meeting another girl, going to a strip club or the like, then initiating sex with me. Also me asking him what's happened/why's he acting different only for him to pretend to brush me off/be super cagey - during sex, him ask me in passing things like "...you'd forgive me for something serious, right?", "..stop asking about that stuff, you won't want to know", "how am I being secretive when I'm here, fucking you now, hm?", "what girl am I seeing now? Am I cheating now? Are you gonna get upset, huh?" - this is a maaaybe, but something like hearing him fucking another girl in a room next to me; muffled moans, light thumping, it happening late at night, etc. I don't know how this would/if I even want this to happen, but I'd love some ideas on mimicking this situation without a real girl. - likewise him seeing me the morning after, acting like it didn't happen. But asking me things: "when did you go to sleep? 10? Ah, ok. No, no reason, I was just curious.", "I heard weird sounds last night, did you? Maybe thunder or something. I wouldn't overthink it.", "Huh? Oh, yeah - I, uh, was moving around a little last night. It's okay, it was nothing."

I still have boundaries/triggers such as excessive insulting, seeing him with other girls, him being too clear about who he's talking about, him picking things to criticise that I don't like (I would specify ofc), or this being the sole kind of sex we have. I just sort of came across this idea recently and it blossomed into a bunch of hypotheticals.

Does this have a name, do you have more examples, or does anyone else experience it too? I'm so curious about it...😵‍💫