Hey friends. I'm relaxing with my dog this evening and thought I'd take the Reddit gamble and post again. I'm at a stable place in my life and want to look for a specific kind of relationship before I turn into a cute little old man that no one can take seriously.

About me: I'm a guy whose glow up came too late. When I was younger, dating made me anxious. It's been a struggle, but I've come a long way with therapy and putting in work. I'm not looking for someone to fix a part of me. I'm the type of person who maintains fewer positive relationships than a myriad of mediocre ones. I like simplicity and honesty, and especially understanding where I stand with other people.

Politically, I'm liberal. We don't have to talk politics but I think at this point most people care about political leanings. I love to laugh, and multiple people have described me as "unexpectedly funny". As unflattering as that sounds I get what they mean, sometimes I say really funny things out of the blue. I love to play argue/banter, like debating a pointless thing passionately (like if a hot dog is a sandwich).

When it comes to serious topics I pride myself on staying calm and kind. I think I'm good at working through conflicts and I'm not ashamed to apologize if I've done wrong.

I'm reasonable active and fit, but have a few extra pounds. I'm working on my physique, but I'm in better shape than most people my age. I look more athletic than body builder. I'm a towering 5'6" (that's barefoot, because lifts have been oh so popular this political season). I have brown hair, light brown eyes, I wear a beard (kept to around 1"). I like to dress up when I'm going out.

Sex stuff: I'll start by admitting I've experienced sexual trauma. This doesn't prevent me from having great sex (with the right person), but it does mean I don't jump into bed right away. I want to meet in a public place and just vibe and get to know eachother. Consent is really important and that goes both ways.

I've usually played a soft Dom role in my sexual relationships, but I'm open to more egalitarian (or even submissive if you're the right person). I enjoy foreplay, teasing, and talking dirty, as well as changing positions and pace. I enjoy sex the most when both people are pleasured and feel taken care of. I like cuddling afterwords and aftercare. I'm clean and full furnish a recent test on request and I've had a vasectomy (I've never wanted kids).

Why a friend with benefits? Honestly I just like the simplicity. I don't want someone who I barely know who comes over for the hookup and then leaves. It would be nice to have someone to spend a weekend day with, intermingling sex between other activities. Another thing for me is I find it harder to bring up certain kinks when I'm a relationship, there's extra tension. Also, I'd never have a threesome with a romantic partner, but I could be comfortable trying with a FWB. The stakes are much lower. However if the chemistry is there and the feelings happen I'm open to a committed and monogamous relationship.

Well, that's probably more than enough. If you're still reading wow! Thank you. When you message I'll give you a picture, and I'd like you to reciprocate if you don't immediately ghost. All's fair in love and war, I guess?