edit: If interested, send a message. Chat notifications on reddit are junk.

As the title says, I'm a 40 year old Male Dom, in an Asian time zone (UTC 8) and I am in a long-term (11yr) relationship that is open, so there are the main deal breakers right away lol. There are no conflicts or concerns as long as all involved respect schedules and boundaries.

If you'd describe yourself as a healthy feminine woman with a desire to have the kind of relationship where rules are enforced, you're held accountable, and praise is earned and deserved, keep reading. I enjoy mixing Dom/sub into everyday life without it being 24/7 heavy protocol. Small but consistent rules with more impactful tasks/rules when the time is right and opportunity presents itself. Some examples:

The feeling of your pants or short briefly rubbing against your bare pussy as you shift in your seat or shift your weight while standing is a small secret reminder. You feel that because I denied you permission to wear panties today. Nobody else knows, it's your secret, but it's also the truth: You had no say in the matter.

The discomfort you feel as you walk here and there in the grocery store in your heels, hearing the click clack, knowing the sound catches attention. Heels in a grocery store isn't something you'd choose, and you didn't. Nobody else knows, it's your secret, but it's also the truth: You had no say in the matter.

The feeling of arousal and difficulty focusing because your warm little cunt can't ignore the ben-wa balls/marbles/baby carrots it holds as you sit there having lunch with your friends. Easier to ignore when sitting but as you walk your body is constantly reminded of me. Nobody else knows, it's your secret, but it's also the truth: You had no say in the matter.

Tiny almost insignificant acts like this I find delicious. moments and experiences where you and your body feel sensations to gently remind you that you belong to me. As you do your everyday vanilla things, now and then your body pulls your mind to me, reinforcing our connection and the delights and torments I inflict on you.

In private, where you have space and safety, I can be much more blatant in my control over you. Household chores can become challenges to earn praise or points. Conversations can be maintained to stoke the unending flame of hunger inside you. Or we can just chill and be our natural dorky selves about music or workouts or books or whatever. Who knows what ideas I'll come up with to blur the distinction between vanilla interest and kink play. There is no script aside from our stated limits and boundaries but as long as we stay inside those lines we're free to develop the protocols, experiences, and bonds that both you as a needing sub and I as a hungering Dom desire.

What a women wears is always the thing that gets my attention first so what you wear will be a consistent focus for me. I think it's also pretty universal here that orgasm control is desired. Both in terms of denial as well as overstimulation and forced/demanded orgasms. Most other kinks are negotiable.

I don't do anything related to shit, blood, weapons, drugs, minors, crime, physical harm, blackmail. I also make sure what we do doesn't risk our health, careers, or relationships.

Don't hold yourself back. Reach out to me if you're interested.