Here we are.

I am an experienced Dominant, seeking a submissive partner. I'm kinky, adventurous, intelligent, thoughtful, and deviant.

As far as BDSM goes, if you're under the impression it's all "40 shades of grey", Rhianna songs, leather, and people pretending to be daddies and little girls, then you are looking for something different that what D/s is to me. If you recognize that those are just specific areas of BDSM that some are drawn to, then that's perfect. I want a real interaction with a real person that has a real D/s dynamic and flow to it.

About me

Physically - I'm almost 25, single, black hair (which I keep buzzed or grow very short nowadays), brown eyes, 177 cm and currently swinging between 185-200 lbs, usually wearing prescription glasses, non-smoker/drinker, clean/DDF. Happy to verify each other with photos early on.

Personality - I'm a mixture of passion, support, and just the right amount of deviancy. I've been described as playful, caring, communicative, honest, creative, mature, witty, curious, easy to talk to, driven, patient, open-minded and a lot more. My love languages tend to be quality time, physical touch, and words of affirmation.

Interests - Part homebody, part social. I've got a pretty eclectic assortment of interests, including: TV/film (Monster [2004], Mr. Nobody, Gattaca, Donnie Darko, Citade de Deus, La Piscine, Scarface, What’s Eating Gilbert Grape, Original Sin to name a few), Music, Art (Leonardo Da Vinci, Fernando Fernandez, Frank Miller etc) that inspires me, Material/Theoretical Sciences, Books - (currently reading), Writing, Health (mental physical), Bodybuilding/Strength training but I take long breaks sometimes, Cooking (although I am far from good at it xD. One day I will cook close to as good as my mama does), have pretty activistic/progressive ideas on social issues (I'm generally on the left side of the spectrum) and love to swim or the idea of me swimming - here’s to the hope that I will learn it practically one day too lol. Hopefully we share a few interests already.

Who and what I'm looking for

We all have needs, wants, and preferences, and the list version of some of my big ones are below. These are just some general guidelines, so if you don’t check every single box exactly but still feel we’d be an amazing fit, message me anyway and show me.

• Single

• Monogamous

• Childless (but wants kids in the future)

• 180 cm

• Age 25-44

• Not too particular about ethnicities but going by my past, my preferences generally tend to skew towards Dutch, West Africans, Nordics, Dinarides, Nilotes & Germans.

• Gainfully employed

• No serious/unmedicated mental health issues

• Knows what they want from a dynamic

• Looking for something IRL and longterm

• Sends pictures in their opening message, or has pictures in their profile

• Doesn’t treat me as a kink-dispenser

• Doesn’t try to turn this into some cringe-worthy role-play as an escapist exercise

• Bonus points if you’re physically active (hiking, climbing, lifting weights, cycling, wheeling, walking etc) or have an athletic background in sports like basketball, swimming or volleyball growing up

Also, please understand that I am a whole ass person, and while being dominant is a core part of who I am, it isn’t the only thing that I am. I’m also a human and a reciprocal partner, and if I see things slipping or feel like you’re not okay, I will question you and break that fourth wall when needed; it’s not a “non-dom” thing, it’s a good person thing.

Submission and D/s are not mutually exclusive from having agency in life. In fact, they're complimentary. I'm looking for someone who considers herself passionate/driven/ambitious (whatever that means to you) - but also dreams of relinquishing control in the right hands. Someone craving to be with a trusted partner who will challenge her, and help her succeed in everything she desires in life through the care, safety, structure, pleasure, discipline of a holistic D/s dynamic. This lifestyle is meant to make us into the best versions of ourselves.

My ideal partner has the same qualities that I bring: she loves to explore/learn/try new things, she's active/takes care of her physical mental health, she has goals, she is communicative, empathetic, giving, loyal, honest, kinky, emotionally available.

I'm genuinely open to every s-type identity (sub, little, middle, pet, brat, etc.).

The Fun Stuff

You’ve made it this far, so let’s talk brass tacks. My broad kinks include: - Impact play - Hypnosis - sensation play - 24/7 TPE - Service - Training/Tasks/Protocols - Wardrobe control - Bathroom control - Meal/Exercise control - Orgasm control/edging - Impact - Hairpulling - Spitting - Primal - Watersports - DDLG - Ropes/Restraints - Exhibition - Praise - Humiliation/Degradation - Anal/Anal training - Breeding - Displays of ownership - Forced regression - Enema play - Somnophilia/light CNC, Medical.

Experience - Whether this is your first or fiftieth rodeo, I'm welcoming of all as I've been in the lifestyle for the past several years. In that time, I've had D/s relationships to different degrees (including DDlg, TPE, M/s, low/mid/high protocol) which have led me to narrow down what I need and look for, hence this post. I'm an open book and always happy to answer anything on your mind. If you're curious and inquisitive, we're probably a perfect match already!

D/s dynamic - I consider myself your catharsis, comfort, and accountability rolled into one. Nurturing but exhilarating, sweet yet firm, dominant but respectful. The one constant is that I'm big on communication and care, making our relationship not just a safe-space but something unique to us. My partner is a priority for me, just as I want to be for her. That means I would like to chat regularly and spend time together since this is a real relationship. I'm also a believer in (negotiated) structure and rules beyond the bedroom. Each dynamic is unique so it's not a one-size-fits-all. Obviously nothing happens until we've established clear connection, consent, and mutual respect. Much more to discuss together.

My hard limits - ABDL/diapers and scat

I know I write long. Also, please note I work & study non-traditional hours, so if I don’t respond right away don’t think it’s because I’m not going to, it’s because I’ll do it once I have some down time. When I post, I tend to zero in on one or two people, try a dynamic on for size, but unfortunately, no perfect fits just yet. A lot of the people I’ve met are great, but as we all know this can be like searching for a needle in a haystack, and I’m not giving up just yet.

Voilà.

As a fun mentally stimulating side quest, you can directly text my number for priority response! Solve the equations to narrow my number down: NPA-NXX-XXX-X