I've learned over the years that communication and honesty are two things that I absolutely require in any sort of relationship. In bdsm, open vulnerable communication is the core of the entire thing. How are we gonna learn anything if we don't let ourselves be open and without judgment while making our needs, wants, desires, fears, boundaries, etc etc etc known?

I have quite a bit of experience online and some irl as a dom in dom/sub relationships, but that's by no means a requirement. Monogamous isn't the right word, but I don't have the attention span or the energy to carry on more than one serious thing at a time. I wouldn't expect the same out of anyone else in an online capacity, but it certainly wouldn't bother me if I was the one on their mind all the time. I have a bit of a possessive streak, but I'm very aware of it and cognizant that nobody's life revolves around mine.

My kinks and turn-ons include but are by no means limited to communication, mild ownership that doesn't extend much beyond picking out your panties every day and saying things like "you're MINE", dirty talk, pet play, spanking, butt stuff (giving and receiving), role playing to experiment and learn, oral, body worship (yours and/or mine), giving praise and attention, orgasm control and sometimes denial, edging, and I get off on giving my partner anything they get off on that doesn't violate my boundaries and limits. In my experience, this very often includes things like name calling, humiliation/degradation, and choking slapping hairpulling kinda stuff that took me YEARS to be okay with. Once I finally internalized that it's okay to smack the fuck out of a woman who wants me to, it turns out I'm pretty fucking good at - and can get off on - hurting someone to exactly the level they want, unless it's to an extreme.

Limits: scat, vomit, gore, CBT, animals, crimes. Maybe some other stuff I'm not thinking of, but I've discovered that in an online capacity with someone who is into something, I can almost always get into it. I'm here to learn, grow my perspective, and gain insight into myself, sexuality, and human behavior in general. As well as anything else I can possibly learn.

I'm self-aware, emotionally intelligent, eloquent, perceptive, verbose, and responsive. I've traveled the world and been a scuba instructor in Malaysia, rock band bassist in the midwest, handyman in Canada, pizza driver in St. Louis.... I won't write out my whole resume, just wanted to give some idea about my attitude towards life. It's the only one I get, so I'm living it how I want, with as much authenticity, openness, and honesty as I can. I crave new experiences and sensations. Never married. I don't take it personally when things aren't a match, and will not force anything that doesn't come naturally with a new person.

I'm pansexual with a strong preference for femininity.

DM or chat is fine. I'm on mobile, and ideally we'll get away from reddit if we click. I do sometimes engage low effort nonconversations like "what's up", but I'll either put in exactly the same effort to amuse myself or I'll explain to you why I'm not interested.