My last girlfriend complained about how unromantic I was - that I never got her anything. "What if I got you a new outfit?", I asked her. "Something I've always wanted to see you in?" And she said that would be very nice and she'd be happy to wear it for me.

So the next time that I saw her, I brought her a gift in a beautiful box, professionally wrapped. She couldn't wait to open it, but when she did, she just looked at me confused. "What is this?" she asked. And I told her exactly what it was, which was six feet of rope. "Now get fucking undressed so that I can see how it looks on you."

How's that for the start for an r4r post? But seriously, I'm not a bad guy, I just know what I like, which is to feel like I'm taking pleasure rather than just being given it. For some partners that's been a free use arrangement where I take them anytime, anywhere, for others its been wild D/s scenes, turning them into pleasure slaves, and for some it's me not taking no for an answer. (And just to be clear it's all consensual.) And I always make sure my partners have an orgasm or two, even if I have to force it out of them.

In 2023, women aren't supposed to want to this kind of thing - it's humiliating, degrading, even sexist. And yet a lot of them seem to enjoy it, even crave it. I can't tell you why because I'm not a psychologist or a biologist, but what I can tell you from my side is that I absolutely do respect and appreciate women, and for me that means accepting them as they are and giving them what they want and need. Doesn't everyone deserve that? Don't you?

What I am looking for is a longer-term connection with someone like-minded. What's most important to me is compatibility, which means coming from the same kind of well educated , professional, middle class background as me, and safety, which means no alcohol or drugs and total 100% discretion. Basically a girl next door with a dark side.

So just to be clear I am not looking to meet up right away, just to chat with someone for a while and see if we're compatible and have the same interests. And if you're interested but kind of anxious or even terrified when you think about going through with something like a CNC fantasy, that's pretty normal and we can just talk with no pressure from my side. (And truthfully you don't want to start with CNC, as a rule.)

Also, I am a little older than your average Redditor (51yo) so make sure you're comfortable with that. I will say that I haven't let myself go to shit like many 50 and even 40 . Anyway, we can share photos when its appropriate and you can see for yourself.

That's all from me, so now it's time for you to hit the chat button so that I can hear from you. Talk to you soon!