I need help. Nothing works on my wife (f52) anymore, and we're now a couple years dry. I feel like I'm going insane. What can I do to turn her on again?

I thought maybe this community of extremely horny people might help.

(Sorry, this is not a threesome request)

Do you have any perfect storm ways to get horny? The hard part is that she's very vanilla. Like, doesn't like porn, never initiates, and really doesn't respond to stimuli. Just the other day I tried massaging her breasts, playing with her nipples like she has liked, and the closest thing to a response was her leaning back. As soon as I stopped, she immediately got on her phone playing a game.

I was trying to push her boundaries because she was losing interest before, so like bite a little harder when sucking her nipples, or different ways to eat her out, but anything other than normal, she either didn't respond to or didn't like.

No, she's not cheating. And yes she's post menopausal. But even with lube, the last time we had sex, it was more like a chore and a favor to me, that has since dried up.

When I tried to broach the subject carefully, she said she's just old and done with sex. Absolute end of conversation.

At this point I am mostly convinced it's me, but in all our time together, she USED to enjoy it.

I'm on here occasionally to just get some kind of virtual satisfaction, but not being able to actually fuck is starting to get to me.

Things she (used to) like and get turned on from: Breast play Kissing and licking her neck and chest and somewhat her pussy Sucking on her earlobes Missionary and cowgirl positions Me cumming is usually her sign to stop, whether she's cum or not.

And that's about it. Tried anal a couple times and she was indifferent. She isn't enthusiastic about blowjobs, and I can't finish in her mouth ever. She really doesn't like doggy style and even playful slaps are not welcome. Doesn't seem to have any interest in light bondage (on either of us), and yeah. Not to throw the word out lightly, but she's essentially become asexual. Zero interest in a physical relationship. Hugs are good enough for her.

The only thing she used to get extremely excited about was after I would cum, she'd tickle me when everything was still raw and firing so I'd be in a ball.

What can I do to up my game? I'm kind of dying here.