Hi there. I am 40 year old poly sub living in Brooklyn. Tall and skinny, with glasses and brown hair, I am told I am an adorable nerd. I am very easy going, while also being successful in life and confident in my abilities. I am about the furthest thing from a worthless doormat.

I see my life as an adventure. I live to travel. I have skied through the alps, surfed the waves in Costa Rica, and rode in a hot air balloon in Myanmar. I love wandering the city in search of interesting things to eat and drink. I also love to rock climb, play chess, and play guitar (poorly). Cooking is a passion with a bias towards brash Mexican, Asian, and Cajun dishes. I also enjoy quiet nights in, curled up on the couch watching movies or reading books.

What I am looking for can take many paths, as I am open to a whole host of relationship constructs. I am okay with something on the more casual side of the equation and can always use a bit more fun in my life. I never say no to another friend and have room in my life for another play partner.

The dream though is something bigger and closer to an FLR in nature. To build a relationship where we deeply respect each other, listen to each other, and can talk about everything and everything. At the same time, I'd love a relationship that is also deeply imbalanced. One that is punctuated with service to my domme and a power exchange.

Longer term, I am not looking for a relationship that involves micromanagement. Frankly, that sounds unfair from a mental burden perspective and completely unsustainable. What I want is to empower my partner to have as much, or as little, control as they want.

Service wise, I am not just talking about the bedroom. I want to meet your needs and I firmly believe your needs extend far past your bedroom door. Ask not what you can do for your submissive, but what your submissive can do for you.

Sexually, I have my fair share of kinks and limits. I'm pretty experienced and have a good understanding at this point of both. But, it is not about any one kink that matters to me. An example of the things I love include pegging, body worship, spanking, and bondage.

I have zero interest in a pro-domme. I need some sort of connection to truly submit to a partner.