I am a well established professional with a family, a home, and a career that is going very well...and yet I find myself wanting something more. Something fulfilling in a way that nothing else in my life currently is. My wife (who you won't interact with) is submissive, but I have a lot of itches that just aren't being scratched in the way I desire...and so here I am. Searching for a second. Someone to act as my toy in all the various ways in which that manifests itself.

What I'm not looking for is any sort of sugar-baby setup, romantic relationship, or situation in which I am spending a tremendous amount of time and energy managing mental or emotional instability/needs. I'm more than happy to get to know you, understand you, peel back the layers to figure out how you tick, and to otherwise engage regularly but what I'm not interested in being in someone's therapist or emotional crutch.

As stated in the title I am looking for something longer term. If you happen to live close or there is a chance for travel that comes up it is possible that this could move offline if we sync up well enough. Especially if things move in the direction of something closer to TPE. But for now my main focus is finding something online. There would be a lot of things that would have to work out before anything like that could be considered.

My kinks are rather broad, and they can shift with the mood and with the person I'm engaging with but there are definitely themes. Sadism, humiliation, degradation, anal, forced/restricted orgasms, clothing control, lots of power exchange obviously, exhibitionism, sharing, general perversion, and honestly a lot more than I feel like going into here. Suffice it to say that the more open to things you are the better for everyone involved. Bonus points to you if potentially heavy themes of misogyny in the context of said relationship are good with you.

I am not looking to be cruel, but this is absolutely a setup in which I'm looking for something very lopsided and selfish with the hope that whomever I sync up with finds the other half of the equation fulfilling. Guidance, exploration, structure, rules, punishments, tasks and goals, all of those sorts of things and more can be a part of the exchange but the overall shape of the relationship would be one where I am the center. My pleasure and desires and wants would be the primary focus. There are quite often ways to change things or alter things so that they work for everyone involved...but at the end of the day if I am feeling like indulging in X...I'll indulge in X.

Please be decent at communicating, reasonably attractive (chubby is fine, fit is better, not looking for bigger girls), and willing to verify if we get past the initial messages. If you aren't willing to consider sending pictures/videos at all as things are further established we won't work out...seeing and hearing are just too much a part of the experience for me to really do without but I also understand the risks.

This is all just the tip of the iceberg of course, so if you have any questions or doubts or something piqued your interest drop me a line and we can see how things shake out.