"online start, sort of” – because I make no promises (except that I’ll try) for too much of an online D/s dynamic beyond talking about EVERYTHING->*(brief)* friendship only phase-> (if we get along and distance is a problem) LDR for some time->in person.

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This is the extremely short (for me) version:

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I’m looking for someone to love and (eventually) live with, (strongly) preferably forever.

There are few “requirements” besides being and wanting to be: forever child-free, completely honest (and preferably very direct), introverted, homebody, non-religious, between 22 and 38, monogamous, into reading (and gaming and tv watching), and financially independent at a minimum level (from now/soon for at least a few years) by your own standards excluding housing (ideally through online means non-dependent on location).

Can’t stress the homebody part enough, I want the connection (though I’ve never been a fan of the word) and (the best) friendship and (required) trust and the love but I’m really not the going out (for fun) or traveling type.

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On the bedroom side of things it can be, somewhat poorly (from lack of full context and with some relevant details missing), summarized as looking for someone that desires:

• to be the center of…relentless affectionate attention (a lot of it physical, including with some daddy dom tendencies – without age play, regression, or little space)
• to be in a D/s dynamic with power exchange (mostly limited to sex related things OR maybe even beyond the sexual ONLY IF she wants it that way and asks for it - I’ve figured out I can do even TPE, although maybe not of the “every detail is controlled directly at all times” type – best to ask about TPE if it’s on your list because in practice it means different things to different people)
• a free use policy – mainly caused by her high sex drive and it being a major turn on (I’m aware this could be redundant with power exchange involved but what I’m looking for can be situated anywhere within a very specific range, either variants would take into account limits and even mood and level of rest and real life obligations etc. BUT imagine wanting and thinking about and engaging in sexually charged and outright sexual activities daily, often at length)
• affectionate, caring, and soft domination but somewhat…firm (not very strict, not rule oriented ^{- except the no lying thing and any other rule type she might want,} and not the “I demand you obey” type BUT instead, as a result of compatible preferences, kinks and limits, she would be…very open to almost always saying yes when ASKED to submit – with the occasional, usually psychological, “made to” ;))
• extensive communication about...everything (with a "no lying" rule, going both ways, starting from the first message :D) .

ALL of the above only AFTER deciding I’m worth it (and after enough trust and in a gradual way, with most of it likely happening in person)…with the note that I think I’m adaptable enough (outside a few main points).

Limits: needles, knives, scat, public (that can be seen), illegal, permanent, group, emotional sadism ^{(long story…but this being a limit is not incompatible with me being…mean, occasionally, only ON REQUEST if you're into that, and only about certain types of things}) AND then there are…question marks (which partially depend on her preferences and views on each example) about what most degradation and humiliation related things fall into (~90% of it isn’t for me but some parts are just soft limits while ~10%, most of it from humiliation, is…complicated to explain briefly and partially depends on her views on embarrassment).

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For the obligatory “about me” section, at the (high) risk of shooting myself in both feet, you can read the (mediocre and too long) oldest post on my account to get a better (but still incomplete) picture, or just go with:

34 years old (quite soon), INTP, homebody, entertainment obsessed (books –mostly different types of fiction, games, movies/series), short (a bit under 1.68m), mostly skinny (a bit under 60kg), minimalist lifestyle, living alone for over a decade, with enough self-owned space, educated but uninterested in a typical career, aspiring dom. I also “happen” to be a good listener, with an even better memory, caring, patient, generally selfish with the world but (with a few “hard limit” areas) would make “you” the exception…AND I have absurd amounts of free time (which, mixed with the high sex drive, will lead to some busy days for my future partner).

You know what, fuck “short”, it’s never really been…me, so (you can) go google "In which I attempt to normalise ten condom fucks" and give that a read for some idea of what I mean by phrasing such as “busy days” and “often at length”.

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Never considered myself great at expressing the positives (or choosing which ones I'd think are the most sought after from what I have), the “what I can give in a relationship” ^{(but people usually figure it out for themselves fast enough, apparently even faster in person and sometimes better than myself – from very limited experience}), so I’ll stick to stating only that I don’t want/expect/hope for/require anything more than I’m willing (and able) to give, at any level (with the probable, slightly unfair, exception that I’m unlikely to relocate).

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I don’t hide my old posts ^{(yet, I might eventually, to avoid confusion}\*)* and don’t comment on things (RIP karma, soon), and a few things have changed in the last 2 years (compared to my oldest post), so make sure to ask about anything you’ve read (anywhere) that might be causing you to have second thoughts.

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Extra note: my tolerance for LDRs has gone slightly down (by extrapolating from a sample of…half) but this is likely limited to situations where the future plans are still not clear enough (situation I don’t intend to repeat).

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If you are reading this weeks or months after it was posted and are interested in talking (even for friendship), message me anyway. If it’s still here I’m still looking (for the right partner).