For the following paragraphs, I'd appreciate your candid responses as you read. You can keep the answers to yourself, in your mind if you wish. Or if you feel comfortable, I'll listen to your heart happily.

Let's start with something not too intrusive. On a scale of 1 to 10, how happy are you in your relationship/marriage? If you answered 8 or above, bring a positive memory to mind, something you genuinely cherish with your partner. If your answer was 7 or below, tell me what makes you feel that way? Is there something lacking despite all the effort you've dedicated?

Regardless of the number you answered, is there some desire that's been left unfulfilled, whether physical or emotional that you'd consider finding elsewhere? Answer that question with the thought that you genuinely wish for that desire to be fulfilled yet your partner is not doing so.

Staying on the candor, have you... well, thought of another man before? Take a deep breath. Answer the question again truthfully. Whether it's an odd thought that invaded your mind once or something you think about every now and then, does the thrill make you curious enough to dare I say, try?

Alright I can picture you have a question for me now: "What if I get caught, oh fellow Redditor"? Well let me assure you that I get your concern. It can't just be any other man. You need somebody you can trust and forgive me for saying this, but trust EVEN MORE than your partner. No pressure in meeting or being in the same bed so fast either. If ever it gets to that, then we can just leave it to fate.

But let's say we do build that trust. Would you be interested in actually dedicating some effort to this discreet bond we share? The last thing I want is a random hookup out of this. If you do happen to guide this other rubber-clad manhood into your soaking cave, know that your secrets are safe with me.