What’s your messed up sexual psychology or experience? What arouses you that you’d never want anyone to know about? I'm curious what secrets you have that are so dark and make you feel so embarrassed and so vulnerable that you're hesitating about even confessing them anonymously.

In class or at work or even in the comfort of your loving relationship, sure, you're protected. By your clothes, by your secrecy, by your ability to lie through your teeth. But what if somebody knew? What if you knew somebody knew? What if they knew you knew they knew? Right now I have nothing on you, but the second you reply to this prompt you’ll cede a critical information advantage to me, and suddenly you’ll be vulnerable. The question you’ll have to decide is whether that’s scary, or whether it’s exciting.

Think about the names of all the people in your life. Former classmates, co-workers, other people. Imagine you had the chance to confess your deepest vulnerabilities to one of them at random, but you wouldn’t know who. Every time they’d think of you, they’d snicker at your secrets. Maybe they’d use them against you, maybe they wouldn’t. It’s a bit risky. But that’s the thrill…

Or maybe it's just a chance to share each other's secrets and bond a bit over that shared vulnerability. If it makes you feel better, I'll share mine. Maybe we're all damaged and it would be fun sharing our experiences, the guilt from the bad things we've done, the fucked up traumas we've experienced, the embarrassing fetishes, and all the ways it messes us up and drives us to seek toxic relationships and to contend with crippling insecurities? It's cathartic, no? And maybe a bit dangerous. Or maybe there's something specific I can help you with. I'm certainly happy to give it a try. Don't be shy. I won't judge. Or maybe I will...

So, in your reply, I'd like you to share with me the following pieces of information and from that we can start to chat. I’m sure we can do something with whatever you share…

• Your general persona, who you are, anything you want to share about the actual you

• Your most notable insecurity

• Your worst trauma

• Your deepest guilt

• Your deepest fear

• Your darkest fantasy