Strength, power, dominance. That's what seems to be the turn-on for the ladies of DPP- whether it's being pushed against the bed and gently taken, or a straight up right-there-in-the-street pounding from a young and hung gang. Or a more subtler thing, where being an older, more powerful man is fetishized and vaunted- those college professors and CEO's and princes are getting all of the action (and most of the textually-transmitted diseases) on our favorite smut sub.

And speaking as a guy? That's all right! I have a dominant side that I don't often get to let out in the real world, and it's fun to play with that sometimes. But what I feel sometimes, and I'm wondering if you guys get it too, is trapped.

Hey, I'll be the first to admit that DPP is an emotional outlet for me; I'm in a locked-on profession where I don't get to have a fluffier side in real life, and romance is DOA for me thanks to my job. But... Sometimes I want to play something soft and sweet, or even gasp maybe not be the one taking the lead.

Finding a partner: Whose prompts get all the action? Hers. Who has to send all the PMs and brave the crashing waves of total silence? Me. Am I sought out, pursued, desired? Nahhhhh. But it grinds on me a little. I don't blame the ladies of DPP a whit; why would you respond to a [M4F] post that has his fantasy when you can stick a pink-red post up, tailor-made to your fantasy, and get some guaranteed orange-red? But seeing as many F4F posts as F4M, and the majority, it seems, of F4A posts that "strongly prefer ladies" or send "women to the front on this one" and a few lonely beacons of desire for men in a sea of lonely blue... it makes me wonder sometimes, when I'm down.

Do any women actually, y'know, want men?

I know, I know, "silence is the answer-" I might not be the flavor they want, with my fondness for romantic anal scenes and cunnilingus n' cuddles, but there are definitely a lot of women on here very happy with hairy chests and throbbing cocks and what-have-you. But it hurts a little, to see that there's so much less desire for men, by the numbers, than for women. And almost no desire for men, not... cock props.

Which leads right into my main point- it seems like for those happy, wonderful few ladies who love to play with gents, there's only desire for a very specific type of man: Strong. Masculine. Hung. Intelligent, well-written, sure, but as a character? To all my brothers out here who are subs, sweet holy baby Nylarothep, I am so fucking sorry for you guys.

Is there any room for guys to be normal guys on here, or- gasp- have their partner take the lead? I get a sense that a lot of women use DPP for a creative outlet solely, and a lot of men use it as an emotional and sexual outlet, and everyone tries to explore fantasies they don't get to live in real life. The dating game is the way it is, and a lot of the gents of DPP, it seems, are introverted, geeky (looking at you, you sexy, sexy Rule 34 prompts)... so there are more than a few of us writing to play at something that's hard to find in real life. A lot of guys want, on here, to play at being equally desired, to be pinned down and ravished (swoon), to be wanted, or to have a sweet vanilla romance of words and fantasies, it seems... and, weeeeelllllllll...

The women of DPP overwhelmingly prefer to dial real life up to 11 instead- to be really desired, to be chased and taken by the really manly guys, to be pursued harder and bigger and longer- OK, you get the point.

Are there any guys out there who feel the same way? That there's no room for them to let out weakness in their writing? To want to be wanted? To write a bit of their own vulnerability away, into a story, and feel free? That feel they have to project this strong, confident, always-leading-the-way image even if their heart's desire is to have a lady at least write about pushing them against a wall and making them feel like they're the sexiest man in the world? Do any of my smut-spinning brothers out there feel the ache from seeing that who they are inside isn't even desired?

Guys, seriously- I can't be the only one who hurts when I feel like no one wants my deepest fantasies- and I'm not talking about the harem of sexy androids, but the one where I can bring my partner hot chocolate and have a long, lazy loving by the fire while saying cute things to each other and just letting a bit of our hearts show. Or be the one who craves an orange-red first from a partner who sees them as an exciting opportunity, not just an option?

I like to play myself or close to it, in my stories; I'll admit that- easier to write and sexier, and in my shame I'll admit it's a way for me to hear my name called in a textual echo of some sort of passion. But I'd love to be my self- sure, I'll put on my sexy, sexy dress blues and pound you into the bed, ladies, but maybe sometimes I want to be the literary little spoon after.

Look, men of DPP, I want you. I want to hear your own take on being constrained to one role, of not being wanted, or even to tell me I'm wrong. I want to see if you feel trapped as well, to not seek out what you crave and put on a mask, so you can just find someone to write with.

Ladies, your thoughts are welcome too (and 99% of you are great; overall I've had a blast on here and there is so much talent from guys and gals alike on this sub)... but for this one, gentlemen:

I want you, guys.