First a bit about me: I'm a 25 year old woman from the Netherlands and looking for a conversation about sex, not an RP or anything like that. I don't mind you getting aroused but that is not my goal per se. I'd like to talk in the reddit chat function in Dutch/Nederlands (preference) or English. I'd like to see a reaction that is on this topic so I know you've read it and we have something to converse about. Now to the topic:

The last few decades there has been a big change in what is "normal" to think about sex. We act like women and men are the same, want the same and need the same. Like sex should be focused on both, only be done when both want it as much, etcetera. We act like that is so, but it isn't based on reality.

Let's be honest. On average men have a way higher libido. They think orgasms are more important and need to orgasm often, otherwise they feel frustrated. Throughout history the male orgasm was always seen as more important. Women on average can't orgasm as easily as men anyway and for some (like me) it's near impossible (and no that isn't a challenge). At the same time men on average are more dominant, women are more submissive. Men are more active and initiators of sex, women are more passive. There is nothing wrong with acknowledging that.

Our biology hasn't changed and evolution has steered our sexuality in a large part. I think it's better to move with that rather than against that. So sex is naturally focused more on his ejaculation, is often but quick and women are passive while men do the work. It's a bit crass maybe but I think we're mostly still the same, we just act like it isn't so. That leads to problems in relations since frustrations grow.

Maybe you have some more thoughts about this. Do you agree? Do you know more things in relationships and sex in which our biology is different than what we act like, please send me a chat request. Talk to you there!