First: I see this as a conversation starter so please react to it, don't just send a "hey" or "hi, how are you". Tell me what made you interested in talking about it. I prefer to talk in Dutch and only use the reddit chat. Send me a chat request if you want to talk.

I know my point of view is very personal and indeed even unpopular, more so among men than among women. I think isn't masculine for a man to focus on making his partner/woman orgasm. Sex in it's most natural, raw form is focussed on penetration and his ejaculation. Elaborate foreplay is unnecessary fluff and sex shouldn't take forever. Quick and often is better dan slow and little.

When having sex I don't want him to hold himself in ot getting himself distracted. I want him to focus on his own orgasm since that is what satisfies me when having sex. It doesn't help that I don't like it when sex takes forever and I see long foreplay as an unnecessary postponement. There are many men that wouldn't be able to handle that. They get insecure when they can't make a woman orgasm, even if she doesn't want it herself. Their ego's can't handle that but I think more than that it comes from feeling insecure.

Sex has been a male-focused thing in most of human history. Just penetration untill he ejaculates shortly after. That is what sex should be. Feeling his lust and power over me is what I like. It's nothing misogynistic; it gives women power. Men are much more dependant on women than the other way around. That is one thing I like about sex.

But to be honest one of the reasons I have these feelings is because I can't get to orgasm easily anyway. I can do it if I concentrate on it with a powerful vibrator but only then would I want to focus on that. I don't want that during sex. It's something for me on my own. Sex is for his orgasm.

Anyway, if you'd like to talk about this, preferably in Dutch, send me a chat request. Tell me what made you interested in talking or react to one of my opinions, that makes it a lot easier to start a conversation.